To play Christmas Card Chicken with SIL?

[Ninepence]

I have a Christmas card written out to SIL and BIL.

We've posted or hand delivered all the others.

WIBU to leave it on the mantelpiece until either (a) they come round? (b) it gets to the last posting date, and I put it in the post on 21st December? (c) they sneak round and put our card through the letter box when we are out and then I post theirs?

Background - they last came over to ours on Boxing Day last year, meal and stayed over. We called at theirs end of January with a card and flowers for SIL's birthday.

Since then, nada. DH's birthday card through the post, my birthday card through the post. So we posted BIL's birthday card. I know, I know, childish .

Huh? This thread just seems bonkers. I don't get the problem or the point.

Bizarre! I wouldn't see a posted card as being an insult. They remembered to send one anyway, better than dh's db.

So you haven't been round since January because you were waiting for them to take their turn at visiting? And as punishment for this terrible deed - merely posting, not hand-delivering birthday cards - you are withholding their Christmas card?

There is certainly someone who is hard work here, but it doesn't sound like the SIL tbh. I think the OP has realised that with the 'bye' comment when the thread immediately didn't go her way.

Love your title😂😂

It depends. How small and empty is your life? You sound very needy. Relations drift apart and together over a 30 year period. They may just be going through a phase at the moment where they are busy and dont feel like making an effort. Leave them be and send a polite card like a civilised person.

I'd love it if my Oh's family posted cards. They don't even bother. Not even a text!

Get a life OP

Think you need to grow up tbh.

You have the wonder if they have agonised over your Christmas card as much as you have....my guess is it hasn't even crossed their mind

YANBU. You made the effort to invite them for a meal and have them stay over on Boxing Day and then also took flowers and a card to them on SIL's birthday.

They haven't made the effort. And if they are hand delivering cards but not bothering to make arrangements to pop in for half hour, then I really wouldn't bother with them anymore.