Not to exchange Xmas presents with my DH and vice versa

[calistaraines]

Been together nearly 20 years. In the early years we used to exchange gifts. Not we literally get each other nothing.
Both happy with arrangement.
People are shocked when I tell them.

I think it's fine if that suits you both.

We are the opposite and both go completely over the top with each other. We spend a small fortune but meh, that's what we like to do.

But if we ever get to the stage where we have to write each other lists, I'd rather not bother.

We don't do presents either. No point spending money we essentially don't have on gifts we don't need. I'd like to one day be able to treat each other but with a young family , 2 dogs and only one of us working it makes sense not to for
Now

We usually don't bother, or do very small token things. This year I have bought us tickets to see Flight of the Conchords but obviously, it's kind of a present for me too, and I told him "I've got you something, but it's for both of us really, so please don't buy me anything at all this year".

I think its nice the children see parents giving each other gifts. I loved helping my dad get gifts for my mum. Children dont need to be the centre of everything and they learn for later giving to gfs etc. But each to their own.

I agree, I am quite ambivalent about exchanging gifts with other adult family members as I do think the present side of things is mostly about the kids - but ours love to see what dh and I give each other and help with the choosing.

Same here.

We buy anything we want as we want it. There is nothing I need so what is the point of wasting money.

We love Christmas though and it is a huge thing for us. We have MIL, SIL and our kids, grandchild and their partners for the full day and night. Lots of food, wine, board games.

When we tell people we don't do gifts they always seem to think that we don't like Christmas.