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AIBU to not book my birthday weekend away?

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Snowfire · 14/12/2017 09:41

DP and I have both been pretty busy lately and haven't had a lot of time to do much together. I have been wanting to get away for a bit of us time and suggested we go away for the weekend for my birthday. DP agreed it would be nice and we decided where we would like to go.
He was concerned that my DD (17) might be miffed that were going away as she might feel left out, I said I would take her away the following weekend as I have the whole week off.
We looked at some nice hotels, he thought they were way too expensive, couldn't we just stay at the travel lodge? How far from town? Will the parking cost extra? We couldn't make a decision so I just left it for a few days. The next time I tied to engage him, he was more interested in looking at some shite on facebook so I just gave up.
In the meantime, DD has been more excited about our trip away than she has about Xmas! I booked our hotel and she has been looking at what to do & where she would like to eat :)
I mentioned our trip to DP again yesterday and he said "I thought you had already booked that! I told you to just book whatever you want!"
The issue is, there is bare minimum in our joint account so it would mean I would have to pay for it. I would of course have to pay the full cost of mine and DDs trip and I would need to put it on my credit card or use my savings.
I feel like I should just not mention it again and look forward to my trip with DD.

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trojanpony · 14/12/2017 09:50

Yanbu!!!!
How lazy of him
enjoy your trip with DD and don’t mention it again

Tinselistacky · 14/12/2017 09:53

Go all out on the trip with dd and leave My Misery home alone. I know it's your birthday but maybe get a shed and stick it down the bottom of the garden - with dh in it.

Snowfire · 14/12/2017 11:11

Good idea, he loves his shed so he’ll probably be quite happy with that plan!

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Nikephorus · 14/12/2017 11:54

The issue is, there is bare minimum in our joint account so it would mean I would have to pay for it. I would of course have to pay the full cost of mine and DDs trip and I would need to put it on my credit card or use my savings.
Or you could mention that to him so that he can offer to transfer extra to cover it / put it on his credit card. If you've booked the other trip I can see why he assumed you'd booked the first one with him given that you'd had the discussion. Yes it would have been nice to have excitement from him but (17 yo girls aside) who gets that excited before the trip? It's on the weekend that you want his attention! Book something nice on your cc and tell him he needs to do a transfer. Job done.

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