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AIBU?

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To ask friends to bring food

16 replies

Sparebutton · 14/12/2017 00:29

I invited six friends to come over for dinner on New Years Eve. It's a bit of a tradition that they always come to ours. DH and I enjoy cooking and we usually do quite a formal meal, with starter, main course, pudding etc.

But last weekend, I broke my wrist and won't be able to cook. I don't want DH to have to do it all, as he's got to do all of Christmas now. I don't want to cancel, but was thinking of asking my guests if they could all bring a dish to share this year. Is that rude or ok?

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twotired · 14/12/2017 00:30

I'd say it's ok given the circumstances tbh and would offer anyway, especially if you do it every year.

Hope your wrist heals soon

TrojansAreSmegheads · 14/12/2017 00:30

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Milkandtwosugarsplease · 14/12/2017 00:31

I don’t think it’s rude at all. They’ll probably feel better about coming and won’t be worried about you overdoing it. Bring and share meals are always lovely. Enjoy

DramaAlpaca · 14/12/2017 00:32

I think that's fine, not rude at all especially in the circumstances. I'm sure when you explain why your friends will be happy to help out. I would anyway.

MiddleClassProblem · 14/12/2017 00:34

YANBU! You broke your wrist! Anyone not whiling to help out under the circumstances (and how lovely of you to do this every year) is a twat. Which I’m sure your friends are not!

MiddleClassProblem · 14/12/2017 00:35

Also they have plenty of warning to figure out what they will bring

Leeds2 · 14/12/2017 00:55

I don't think that would be unreasonable at all.

FluffyWuffy100 · 14/12/2017 00:56

Fine given the warning.

Ginkypig · 14/12/2017 01:05

There's plenty of notice so I wouldn't mind

The rest of you might be disappointed by my abilities though!

AnnieAnoniMouse · 14/12/2017 01:09

Another option would to be to see if they’d rather chip in to get ‘at home’ caterers. I’ve never tried it, but in your situation it could be fun.

Definitely ok to ask them to bring something though...it might start to be the new normal instead of you doing it all!

Sorry to hear about your wrist 🌷

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 14/12/2017 01:16

Totally fine! People usually like to know that they can help in some practical way.

Get well soon OP

ProseccoMamam · 14/12/2017 01:33

Not rude, you're hosting they should bring something whether your ill or not.

iboughtsnowboots · 14/12/2017 01:44

It's not rude at all, I would hope your friends might offer when they know what has happened. If they don't it might just be they are a little over awed by your cooking skills !

PanPanPanPing · 14/12/2017 06:04

YANBU, it's absolutely fine to ask that.

Or you could ask people if they're happy to chip in for a takeaway - curry or Chinese or whatever?

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Sparebutton · 14/12/2017 09:13

Thanks everyone. You're right! I'll email them all today. Xx

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Blackteadrinker77 · 14/12/2017 09:17

I've had to do the same this year. I cater for 12 on Christmas day, the full works. I spend weeks prepping.
This year I'm having surgery so asked everyone to bring a buffet. No-one has minded, people are even coming the day before to help DH clean the house before I get out of hospital.
Enjoy them running after you.

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