The kids had an arguement. It was difficult to sort, I could see both sides and it escalated into bed time. The kids come to me usually, DH tried to help, it did precisely fuck all and that’s for another thread.
DS2 (6) was in bed and got out several tiles crying because he was angry about what happened. There’s screaming, shouting, slamming doors. I had to raise my voice, threat to take things away and negotiate the fall out between the kids before it settled. No doubt Mumsnet will rip apart my parenting, the way I dealt with things - more so because I’ve been very loose on the info I’ve given and will pick up on the fact that I handled it rather than DH.
But for the posters who will see past that, please can you see my AIBU here -
After the youngest ‘settled’ DH came in and said ‘I think he’s asleep’. This is after him being the front room and me dealing with the screaming, shouting, slamming, negotiations and threats.
I was still frowning and wound up from the events and I vented. Something along the lines of the kids being shits and I was pissed off.
He huffed and quite literally flounced the corner to exit the room and yanked the door open to leave in a dramatic way.
I said “are you kidding me?”
He said I was having a go at him. I was incredulous. Asked him how so?
He said it “wasn’t what I said but how I said it”
I said I was fucked off with the kids, am
I not allowed to vent to my husband?
He said “can you warn me then?”
This is where I might be unreasonable but...
‘warn him’?!
As though the screaming and tantruming of his son and me trying to sort it out wasn’t warning enough?!
He flounced anyway. Whatever it is he expects, I’m doing it all wrong.