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to send a christmas gift?

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SipTheCocaCola · 13/12/2017 19:47

After 2 years together, DP who is admittedly the love of my life, and myself broke up around 3 months ago. It was over something I did (not cheating but massively broke trust) but over the past few months, we have been unable to lose feelings and both admit we are very much in love. However, our relationship sort of dwindled in our last months we were together and we have both decided that we must become a lot more emotionally independent and be happy with ourselves as individuals before we can rebuild our relationship.

However, I still would like to send a christmas gift to him with a note reminding him how much I still love him etc. We do talk everyday to check in but don't see each other regularly. WIBU to send a gift? He wouldn't want me to waste money but I really would like to still make him feel good and appreciated as his family business is running 6am to 9pm for the remainder of the christmas season so I know he will be feeling run down from this.

Also, I was thinking something simple like a blanket (to keep warm during our time apart blah blah) but he recently got an electric blanket. So any other ideas? Minimal gifts but thoughtful? I can't really think..

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Betsy86 · 13/12/2017 19:49

Think its a lovely idea you still care for each other very much and a thoughtful gift is always lovely to recieve.
How about a homemade hamper put blanket in, cosy things like hot choc his fave snacks etc?x

Jubejube1 · 14/12/2017 01:49

Why not buy him an experience gift. He can then take time to go & relax when his job is not so hectic.

SipTheCocaCola · 14/12/2017 13:59

@Jubejube1 it'd be nice but he works everyday. I mean every single day excep NY day, easter and Christmas Day. So not really an option :/ he doesn't have days off.

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Justmuddlingalong · 14/12/2017 14:07

The talking every day and 'a blanket (to keep warm during our time apart blah blah)', doesn't sound like you are becoming more emotionally independent. You've split, but seem to have an unhealthy dependence on each other.

KungFuPandaWorksOut16 · 14/12/2017 14:22

I think the idea of a blanket with the message " keep you warm during our time apart" is massively muddying the waters, and sounds like a gift you'd give a partner who had too travel away and work not an ex.

You both aren't helping each other heal by doing this back and forth with each other.

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