Should I do my friend a Christmas stocking?

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My closest friends mum passed away earlier this year. They used to do each other a stocking every year it was really speacial to her they both used to put lots of effort into finding things the other would love rather than just random bits. It was Just the two of them that did it, her dad and brother didn’t get invloved. I’m wondering if it would be nice if I did her one instead? Ive got a list of things I could put in it that she would really love and I hoped it would make her smile on Christmas Day when I’m sure it will be a really tough day for her but don’t want to take away from the tradition her and her mum had or upset her in anyway.

I’m really conflicted what do you think?

I think it's a really lovely idea, though if you feel a stocking maybe a bit too hard for her to deal with perhaps a 'box/hamper of treats'?

I think it's a lovely idea. It's hardly as though your friend wouldn't be feeling sad anyway, so I'd say that despite the bittersweet nature of it, she will appreciate your thoughtfulness and be moved that you are paying tribute to their tradition.

Difficult. I think I would do it - maybe with a little note in that you know it's a hard day for her and you thinking of her?

It's bound to make her cry (well it would me) but equally it's nice when other people acknowledge your grief and the 'extra difficult days.'

You sound like a very thoughtful friend.

It’s impossible to say how someone else will react but if you present it with the explicit explanation that it is about keeping her mum’s tradition with her and not in any way you trying to ‘make up’ for her loss or take over, I think it likely that your friend will appreciate it hugely. It’s a very thoughtful gesture in my opinion. Maybe even a photo frame for a pic of her and her mum to sort of emphasise this as one of the gifts, IYSWIM.

It's a very thoughtful suggestion,really kind of you.
But I would give her a hamper of the items you've bought,or another way of boxing them up,rather than give a stocking.it reads like that was a special thing just between them and it would be too difficult for her to handle.
I'm sure she will be pleased too receive your gifts.🌼🌼

Can you do a Christmas Eve box instead filled with gin hot chocolate mug treats movie?

Same idea different setting

What a lovely idea. I like the suggestion of tweaking it slightly though, so it's not exactly the same thing as she did with her mum. I also love the idea of a framed pic.

Thanks everyone I think I might do it in a box instead of an actual stocking, will be easier to wrap as well I suppose and I’ll pop a note in too. The photo idea is great I’ll have to go and route through her FB and see if I can find a picture of the two of them

One of my friends got me an Easter egg when I was 23, only four months after my mum died because she "thought your dad and brother might not bother" (they didn't). Tomorrow it will be 22 years since I lost my mum, and I still remember it as one of the sweetest things anyone has done for me. Letting her know that you understand how she must be feeling, will be appreciated, I think.