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To think a pink mufti day is outdated and downright ridiculous?

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funnyfoursome · 12/12/2017 21:09

So on the school calendar there is a pink mufti day next week for Reception and KS1. Apparently it's because a teacher is going off on maternity and expecting a girl. Thats 180 children who are going to be told ' you need to wear pink today because Mrs X is having a girl'. Maybe just me but I dislike the whole pinkification of girls and everything it stands for ie lesser expectations of girls. In the clothes realm I'm thinking of the rows of scientist/ astronaut tops for boys vs the "I'm pretty/ cute" tops for girls. I understand most people will say pink is just a colour but I do think its unnecessary for a school to reinforce these stereotypes. Any thoughts anyone?

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funnyfoursome · 12/12/2017 22:00

No its a mixed school 😄

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Cindie943811A · 12/12/2017 22:01

I think mufti comes from when the British Army was in India.

I, too, think this is a ridiculous idea. I expect the school will say it’s just a bit of fun but they clearly haven’t thought it through

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funnyfoursome · 12/12/2017 22:01

I'll have to let you know about the boys after Friday 😉

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Cindie943811A · 12/12/2017 22:02

How about ordinary mufti — jeans and jersey and big pink spots on your DC’s faces ?

Gaelach · 12/12/2017 22:07

I need more examples of how to use this excellent new word I've just learned.
Is it a noun eg are you wearing your mufti tomorrow? Or an adjective eg she's wearing her mufti clothes tomorrow? Can it be a plural? Eg I've packed my muftis/mufties?

I love it, just need to know how to use it!

Hellywelly10 · 12/12/2017 22:09

How annoying!!

HermionesRightHook · 12/12/2017 22:09

We called it mufti day as well - I think it's an army word for civilian clothes as opposed to their uniform.

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funnyfoursome · 12/12/2017 22:11

Gaelach 😁 I've heard it used as a noun and adjective. Not sure about the plural. Usually 'mufti day'. 'Its mufti tomorrow. ' we are wearing mufti tomorrow'.

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MsHarry · 12/12/2017 22:12

Silly idea. Sounds like an 'All about me" teacher!

Eltonjohnssyrup · 12/12/2017 22:12

If the boys are too it's not really sexist. But in reality very few boys will have pink stuff so it will be a right pain for their parents to sort. I might send them in a red shirt.

Originalfoogirl · 12/12/2017 22:20

Actually, I love the idea of boys all wearing pink for the day too. Not outdated in the slightest, in fact quite the opposite as they are saying boys should be fine to wear pink too.

OlennasWimple · 12/12/2017 22:23

It is ridiculous (unless it's for breast cancer - that would be cool)

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 12/12/2017 22:32

Is it a noun eg are you wearing your mufti tomorrow? Or an adjective eg she's wearing her mufti clothes tomorrow? Can it be a plural? Eg I've packed my muftis/mufties?

You would say,
‘I’m going to be in mufti tomorrow.’
‘She was in mufti yesterday.’
I would say you can’t pluralise it because mufti is everything that isn’t uniform.
You might say ‘are you packing some mufti?’ I guess.

NorWoman · 12/12/2017 22:35

Bonkers. Is this a PTA thing or did the head actually plan this? Doesn't reflect well at all on the school.

harrypotternerd · 13/12/2017 02:32

my sons teacher went on maternity leave in the middle of the year a few years ago. Some of the parents got together and each parent brought in a plate of something one afternoon and we organised with the art teacher for the kids to make cards during their art lesson (the kids were 5) and it was a wonderful afternoon, teacher, kids and parents were all happy.

sonlypuppyfat · 13/12/2017 02:37

I'm really struggling with the idea that pink on a girl is so upsetting

Jigglytuff · 13/12/2017 02:41

That’s idiotic

Mxyzptlk · 13/12/2017 02:46

Not outdated in the slightest, in fact quite the opposite as they are saying boys should be fine to wear pink too.

Outdated (and ridiculous) because the only reason they've been asked to wear pink is because the teacher is having a girl.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 13/12/2017 02:51

That sounds completely ridiculous. I hate the whole "pink for a girl" thing. I would be complaining to the school about gender stereotypes.

As pp have said, non uniform days are usually fundraising events. Is this? And if so, where is the money going?

(I know what mufti is but when I was at school we called it "civvies" which I presume is also army slang for civilian clothes)

EdithWeston · 13/12/2017 04:05

"I'm really struggling with the idea that pink on a girl is so upsetting"

If it was a neutral choice it wouldn't be.

But it isn't - Ms X is having a girl so everyone must wear pink. It's taking the pinkifued stereotype and telling the pupils that there is a different relationship between pink and girls than just a choice of colour.

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VikingVolva · 13/12/2017 05:34

Why does the teacher's baby need to be colour-coded at all?

Would a mufti day (any mufti) be less fun if it wasn't themed? Of course not.

PizzaPower · 13/12/2017 06:06

I think this shop has it covered.
But in all seriousness, vent away OP, stupid idea.

To think a pink mufti day is outdated and downright ridiculous?
shakingmyhead1 · 13/12/2017 06:17

im sure the teachers only wanted a little harmless fun but it would seem some need to suck the fun out of everything,
im sure your little darlings wont be sent home for wearing non pink colours
lighten up

Coconutspongexo · 13/12/2017 06:18

What if they don’t own a pink item? Are parents expected to fork out for something pink??