To think DH needs to calm down

[ryvitaandchocolate]

Dh gets angry a lot but it's feigned anger. It's as if sometimes he thinks anger is the right reaction but goes above and beyond. Today we were driving DD to school as it was icy and the car in front didn't indicate. I said jokingly to DD something like I think this guy needs to remind himself what indicators are. Dh blared the horn and stuck his finger up! Just really unnessecary and I think it sets such a bad example to the children as I want them to see calmness modelled to them. He also shouts at the children all the time. .. any advice? He is never wrong by the way.

Have a word, he’s not setting a good example to your children. Don’t be surprised if your children start to copy his behaviour which isn’t nice if they give the middle finger at school 🙁

Ugh. What do you like about him?

Buy When Anger Hurts Your Kids for him.

What does he say when you ask him why he does it?

Tell him to act his age. Ask if he behaves this way at work; if he doesn't, say you and the children are entitled to the same level of consideration.

Does he then deny he's shouted at all (making you doubt your own ears)??

Yes, have been there.

Don't know if it will work, but I have said that when he shouts at the DCs I won't support him if he's being over the top.

Discipline is absolutely right. But anger is a dangerous thing to deploy.