Is it ever ok to block all contact with dc Dad?

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Ex was very abusive, physically, emotionally and financially including infront of our young dc. He does not have unsupervised contact as dc would be unsafe (I have to supervise at present). We split 18 month ago and I still get lots of abuse via text/email etc. I feel that I should remain in contact despite the fact the he doesn’t even care in the slightest about our dc. Is it ever ok to block all contact with my dc Dad? I see no purpose in facilitating contact as there is no bond. It’s incredibly draining

Honestly, any decent father wouldn't allow you to stop contact. They would fight tooth and nail in the courts.

If you think contact us detrimental to your DDs emotional health and development then stop contact. If he REALLY does care he'll make every effort to go through courts and get contact. Likelihood is that he won't bother.

Why not move contact to a centre instead?

If he's abusive, have you considered a non-mol?

No you are nbu. Unfortunately there are a few mums who use kids to get back at ex, plenty of dads too so fathers for justice etc are formed. This means that people are made to feel fathers right trump anything else even if that father is a waste of space. If he is how you say fuck him him and protect your child from this piece of shit. If my dd father was like this he'd never see her and I wouldnt feel an ounce of guilt.

I'd be straight to a contact centre if he was abusing me. If he cared about his DS he'd buck his ideas up.

I would cut all contact immediately after what you posted.

Bollocks to him.

YANBU Sometimes its better to protect children from the influence of an absolute dickhead. IMO any man who has been violent to the mother of the children and continues to be abusive should not be allowed to see those children. I do not see how it is in the best interests of a child to see a man who has done that to their mother. As they get older it will pose more and more problems.

The question you should be asking is "is it ever OK to have contact with someone who is abusive?'

I would have thought the answer is no. Children don't need violent and abusive people in their life what is the benefit to them of that?

If he doesn't care about contact, I'd let it tail off without making a thing out of it. If you make a big thing about blocking it, he might get in a lather about asserting his "rights".