Workplace persisting with 'Mrs', aibu?

[MsPotatoHead2]

I have never been married and am single. Therefore I've always been 'Potato Head' and if a title is absolutely needed then I use 'Ms'. I work in a school. I have always said I'm 'Ms Potato Head' and asked for the mistake to be corrected. However there seems to be an issue with this, presumably because I have a child. So my name badge says Mrs, I'm a Mrs on the website and the Head etc refer to me as Mrs. I am very respectful of the school religion but aibu to feel a bit miffed that despite correcting them they seem to expect me to take on a married identity? I haven't been told that, but as they continue to use Mrs, it seems pretty clear. It is a Catholic school and quite religious ie marriage promoted etc.

Perhaps tackle it head on and ask what the problem is with Ms. Then be very clear that Ms is agnostic on marital status. The whole point of Ms is to avoid implying either married or unmarried, so to assume it specifically implies one or the other is simply wrong.

The main problem with Ms IMO is it's difficult to ennunciate.

Those that suggest pretending she's married is upholding the ethos of the school - how? I'm a former Christian and remember Christ was 'the way the TRUTH and the light' not 'the way, lets-fudge-an-uncomfortable-issue and the light'.
Although I would ensure I'd thoroughly investigated the possibility of an admin error before getting narky with the Head.

That's a good way to do it, Love - "Oh dear, you must have me wrong on your database still, I'm Ms as you know - can you reorder this badge now please."

The main problem with Ms IMO is it's difficult to ennunciate.

Nonsense.
Can you say fizz?
If you can, congratulations, you can also say Ms.

I'm in the same position. Most people think that Ms is a ridiculous feminist thing. If they use it, they do so sarcastically.

I went to a catholic school (in Ireland, not the UK) and all teachers were Ms as it was none of our business if they were married or not.

I've always been Ms, my name
Never changed when I married. I get v annoyed by people who presume to tell you your title and wish Ms would become the default faster.

In an ordinary boring run-of-the-mill comp I'd say YANBU, but in this case I think the principles of the church over-ride.

But what about the principle about bearing false witness?

I used to work in a very Catholic school. The school use the title Ms without question. It is my preferred title and I used it even when I was married.

Ms suits me. I'm perfectly happy being Ms AlpacaLypse and have been since 1983 when I turned 18. I don't mind the odd Mrs dps-surname or Mrs dcs-doublebarrelled-surname but I would strop if I'd asked to be called something and was ignored time and time again. So yanbu.

i always correct my title, i am a ms, have been one for thirty years when i started filling my own forms in, i will remain a ms

the coaches at the DC's activity called me Mrs (the kids surname) for a few years, i have repeatedly ignored him and said 'i don't answer to that as it isn't my name, please call me rebecca so i know who you are talking to' he's now decided i might know my own name and be deserving of it.

I would be angry if this happened to me. Please speak to your boss and try and get it changed. I’m married and still go by Ms, it’s my preferred title.

Good luck!

If this were a normal school, I would absolutely agree with you.

But you have chosen to work in a particular type of school, the ethos of which was not a secret to you when you chose to work there.

There are many values of a Catholic school which some people would find difficult to support and yet you are OK with everything except whether you are called Ms or Mrs?

It's rude and unprofessional of them to keep addressing you by a name you have told them is not appropriate because it's not your name. If you've asked nicely and been ignored, put it in writing, formally 'Dear [School SLT] my name is MS Potato, not Mrs Potato, please amend your records.' And if the Head keeps ignoring you, write a similarly formal letter to the Chair of Governors.

And those of you going waah, tiresome annoying feminists, maybe bear in mind that it's rude to repeatedly ignore the fact that someone is ^absolutely literally* entitled to be called Sir [name] Lady [name] Doctor [name] and to complain when they are not given the right title.
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However school (CofE) do insist on calling me Mrs HusbandName no matter how often I tell them

That is outrageous - its not your name and I'd insist on it being corrected (and have done in comparable work situations).

There is also no religious requirement to change a name on marriage - its just a custom - so I suspect its more to do with blatant misogyny and lack of respect than anything to do with religion. I would ask them why they discriminate against women on marriage and not men, assuming they don't change men's names on marriage.

OP: same probably applies to your situation. Most of the local schools, faith (including RC) and non faith use Ms for female staff. You might want to ask them about Catholic teaching on telling lies.

But you have chosen to work in a particular type of school, the ethos of which was not a secret to you when you chose to work there.

I doubt they specified that they would be making up titles for female teachers based on an arbitrary judgement of her status.

No-one ever asks a man if he is married or not so he can choose to keep his private life private.
Exactly this ^^.**

Annoys me so much when my marital status is decided for me based on what people think.**

Oops bold fail.