Xmas presents from parents

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For those of you with kids do you still get xmas presents from your parents?Mine don't get me anything anymore because they get so much for my dd. I think this is the way it should be but I have just had my dad mentioning a little something he would like. I was going to get him a little something from dd anyway but I feel he's being a bit bloody cheeky specifying what he would like. On the other hand at least I know what he'd like from dd. I've invited them for xmas this year and I thought it would be nice if we all exchanged something however small. I was just curious to know how many of you still get gifts from your parents. To reiterate I didn't expect anything big and I'd rather they spent their money on dd. I just thought it would be nice to give each other something.

I still get gifts from my parents regardless of having my own DS. Not as much as I used to get before I have my son but I still get a good stocking full.
My family have always loved Christmas though and everyone gets gifts (although it’s not at all about the gifts, more about spending time together).

About your dad telling you what he wanted, that wouldn’t bother me as I would prefer to get something I know my dad would love.

I agree with that as my dad is difficult to buy for so I suppose at least I know he'll use it. It just feels a bit one sided he told me what he wanted and I don't get even get a token gift! It's more just for dd to see everyone exchange gifts really.

I still get a small gift from both my parents (they're seperated). Usually something like pyjamas or a nice bottle.

MIL goes way overboard for DH though, and usually spends more on him than on our kids.

They're buying for your child though? So they are buying for 'you'.

I’m 53 and still get presents from my parents! Usually something small to open and cash in my card
I buy them a few small things eg dvd, calendar, bulbs, chocolates and then take them out for lunch or a posh afternoon tea in January

My parents and in-laws are no longer with us (I'm really old) but when my kids were young we always exchanged gifts. I was telling my friend how my mum always spent more on my husband than me. My mil always made sure that she she spent exactly the same on her 4 children and their spouses plus 12 grandchildren. Not easy on a pension but she did it. I think your dad is being a bit cheeky. Hope they do get you something don't knowhow you can suggest it though.

Me and my brother buy each other something even for the same money! It just feels nice to give each other something.

DH & I still get presents from our parents - usually a bottle, money or vouchers. We get gifts from DH's siblings as well but just the token tub of chocs or bottle of wine.

Yes we still do presents from and to our parents and siblings.

I exchange presents with my parents. We do gift suggestions as we like useful gifts. They also buy for my husband and their grandchildren. They do spoil us a bit and must spend quite a lot, we also get a,stocking with very thoughtful gifts. My inlaws don't really do this, we get a box of biscuits or a nice shopping bag. Different strokes for different folks.

I still get a present from my mum! I can't imagine I'll ever not want to get my dds presents regardless of age or having their own kids.

Last year we bought a lovely frame for DD's school picture and paid for that too and wrapped it and that was their present from us all. My dad said he will bring me a box of these nice mince pies he gets but I'm picking them up from nearly fifty miles away and having them for xmas lunch. Then again they are staying in a guest house for a couple of nights so maybe IABU! I think it's just the way he did it as he didn't even mention it himself he got my brother to!

Yes, we do from my mum and her husband although it does seem to be stuff for the house - we’ve had a bed frame, cooker, hoover, clothes airer and other stuff I can’t remember as our main presents then smelliest, socks, sweets and other bits. My dad and MIL mainly give us token presents but occasionally give us a ‘big’ present.

No DC yet on my side, but my parents still buy present for my sister and I, and our DHs. We've recently instigated a £ limit per person, but mum still gives us money anyway.

BIL has DC and on that side, PIL still get the adult children & their spouses extremely generous presents.

I think it's weird to stop buying for your DC just cos they've had DC themselves! Fair enough cut it to a token if funds are tight and the DC will get more enjoyment from presents - but it does seem strange to me.

I think it's pretty unusual for parents not to buy a present for their adult children. Buying your child a present is not buying for you!

Yes, because not all my siblings have children, so my parents give us all presents, as well as the grandchildren.

Yes, I absolutely get gifts from my parents- usually things I need, but can never justify buying fur myself (nice pyjamas, toiletries, etc). DS gets more, which is lovely- but I like that they still acknowledge me as an individual.

We don't exchange gifts with any adults in the family, we only buy for children and receive for our children.

Ugh just seen my typo, it’s smellies not smelliest

We do buy for all grandparents from all of us, usually stuff they wouldn’t buy for themselves.

Maybe he was just trying to be helpful by giving you a clue about what he would like? If your parents buy for your daughter then surely you would buy for them (even if you label it as ‘from’ your daughter).

I would buy my parents a present regardless of whether they bought me one though. Surely you give someone a gift because you care about them and want them to be happy, not just on the basis of what you get in return?

My parents get me, my sis and our husbands a gift. They never wouldn't. They now also have 5 grandchildren to buy for but we would always exchange gifts anyway.

Always from my parents. PIL'S - it depends on who mil is currently annoyed with. Last year we got nothing from her, previous year, it was one of the bil's who got nothing.

The other thing is that you are hosting so it would be nice for you to have a little something in recognition of that. There is some funny thing that happens with bypassing people that I don't get (my children both received a small gift when my grandfather and father died, but I didn't. I didn't mind as such, or say anything, but it was odd behaviour).

My mother will buy us the turkey as she comes to us which is great. She gets the kids presents n all that's more than enough. We keep saying to the ILs don't buy us stuff as they buy so much for kids but mil usually buys something small. We always buy them something as they get so much for kids all yr round.

Darkstar yes I totally agree but would not buy for them for what I'd get in return but it just feels like my dad 'expects' it and doesn't expect to buy me anything. I think xmas is about being thoughtful and I think getting your dd and son in law something you think they might like is thoughtful even if it cost a fiver.