Work do

[Heavensabove3005]

So I've been mentioning at work for a few weeks about the work do..plans wtc..to which I was told there wouldn't be one this year.
So imagine my surprise when I was asked on Friday by one of the girls on maternity leave, whether she would see me on Friday at the work do..
Apparently it's the same place as last year..which I attended..
This feels so shit 🙈😔 where do I go from here? Any advice

My first reaction was that you have dodged a bullet because I hate work dos. Even when they know I won't go, I am always asked.

However that is hardly the point here. It sounds like you have been excluded and that is massively unkind and unfair. At worst you have been lied to.

I would face up to the organiser and ask out straight. At least then you will know what's going on and won't be worrying any longer.

It still could be a massive cock-up which just needs sorting out and apologising for.

Whatever the outcome, make sure you enjoy party season with people whose company you enjoy and who value you.

Great advice from LordEmsworth

I'd feel awful too, op, yadnbu!

Silly question - are you sure that the person on Maternity Leave isn't the one that's got it wrong?

Ring venue, say you work at x and just ask them to confirm the total staff numbers they have for booking.

That way you will know for definate before any confrontation.

First communication doesn't need to be confrontational. Just say to person who told you there was no do that you are confused. X has told you that there is a do at y venue? You judge what you say or do next based on their reply

I’d be heartbroken if that happened to me!

I'd find out and cancel the fucker.

And this just proves my theory that people are shits. Fuck 'em.

Fishface77, that’s a great idea

OP, sorry this has happened to you, what a mean thing to do

What utter barstards, I’d be gutted if that were me OP

Someone is a shit. Don't immediately assume everyone is in on it though. Could just be one or two.

That’s horrible op. Maybe email your boss and say you’ve been informed that there is a work do but you appear to have been deliberately left in the dark could they clarify whether it’s an oversight or if you are in fact not welcome to attend.

And if it’s deliberate ring up and cancel the fucker 😂😂😂

Is EVERYONE going except you? Or is this just a 4 or 5 of them got together and decided to do something a little different kind of gig?

Sounds like you've been deliberately excluded for a reason. Either they don't like you or you have done something really bad at a previous do and they are too frightened to confront you about that.

You must have some idea why you are being excluded. This is definitely not an oversight. I'd be raging 😤.

I would be going straight to my boss direct and asking outright what the fuck is going on and I'd most definitely be looking for another job.

How dare they make you feel this shit.

I worked with a girl who got really drunk at a works do once and professionally embarrassed the firm and has been banned from attending any other professional dos (not Xmas though) but she was sat down and told why by our boss. Could it be something like this?

I'd speak to the boss and find out what is going on.

OP I hope you’ve said something today. Awful behaviour from your colleagues if they’ve excluded you on purpose, even if you’re Geordie Shore level liability when drunk (which I am not for a second saying you are!).
Don’t let them get away with it.

Weird coincidence. There's a thread from the 'other side' over on a different forum at the moment. Although I doubt it's talking about the same place.

www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2057818810

This is so so so rude. I would query it. Also call the location.

Did you find out anything else today OP?

The same amount of people though...coincidence?

Please come back and update us OP