Aibu to still feel fed up and wanting more...

[Pinklady1982]

Hi all, don’t really know what answers I’m looking for, but if anything maybe just to get a few bits off my chest and some friendly advice...

The same as I’m sure a lot of people, all I
ever wanted growing up was my own little family, and it took me a bloody long time to get there with a handful of really awful relationships beating me down over the years. When my fiance came along he managed to save me from some bad times, and he has given me a beautiful child and an amazing (but sometimes frustrating) stepson who I also love to bits and wouldn’t be without.

Now to the point, I keep finding myself feeling really really lonely and fed up. Part of me desperately would love to have another baby, but Df doesn’t (he is a bit older then me and already had 2 others). To be honest, even if he did, I wouldn’t want another child with him as I already feel like a single Mum most of the time, and there just doesn’t seem to be any affection between us anymore. He will hint if he wants a bit as such, but if he thinks he can just joke about it without putting any work in he has another thing coming! This means nothing has happened in nearly a year now, and things show no signs of improving.

I don’t want to break up my family, it’s all I’ve ever wanted, but I just feel so alone inside. There is a guy who works in a shop who keeps asking me out, although I have made it very clear I am with someone and have children, but part of me loves the attention, and I get butterflies whenever I go there. I wouldn’t actually do anything though.

Sorry this must seem pathetic, but I just don’t have anyone to talk to about all this...so aibu for feeling this way?

I feel the same...it's so shit when you get everything you think you wanted and then it all feels shit. My DH is my issue. He's currently at the pub and has been there since 4. FML.

Have you spoken to your partner to tell him how you feel? If he’s neglecting you and not being a good father you need to tell him. As for the other guy, it seems to me that as he knows you’re with someone but is still asking you out he’s only after one thing. If that’s all you’re after too, you need to think about how it will affect you and your family. It will just all end in tears and you’ll lose the family you craved. Do you still see the guy? Have you taken him up on his offer? Have you dtd? lol. Maybe the attention you get from him is clouding your judgment. My advice would be to stay away from the guy and work at your relationship. If it doesn’t work out at least you know you tried.