To feel upset by DD behaviour around dh

[Candyfloss1122]

Posting here for traffic as feeling desperately low today.
Does anybody else find this...
I have a 10 month old DD and I am a stay at home mum. During the week I am the sole care giver for DD and she can be very very clingy with me. I have given up trying to do anything during the week as she will cry if I leave the room, or cling to my ankles if I try to do anything like wash bottles etc. Even going to the toilet usually means taking her with me in order to not have to listen to her cry the whole time.

At the weekends however, it's a different story. When dh is here she is good as gold. She will play and chat away at her toy box, watch him as he washes dishes etc and is generally anl pleasure to be around.

What am I doing wrong sad I have had enough today, it makes me feel like I'm a terrible mum. Dh never sees what my weeks are actually like and how exhausting it all is because she isn't like it when he is around.

Please don't interpret this as me not wanting her to be close to her dad, that couldn't be further from the truth. I just feel like I live in the twilight zone where all my frustrations from the week are non existent at the weekend, and dh trots off to work thinking I have another blissful day ahead of me and it just isn't so.

You're doing absolutely nothing wrong. Far from it, really.

Think of it this way- you are the one person in the world with whom your daughter feels safe and relaxed enough to be herself. Not her 'best self', all the time,like with her Dad, but just herself. You are her constant- she knows this and doesn't feel like she has to 'put on a show'. Like all of us really- we're polite and friendly etc to outsiders, wear our bras, don't wear our pjs outside...But at home, with those we love best, we can let ourselves relax.

@Candyfloss1122 - the fact that you react so negatively to @Auvergne 's mild comment speaks volumes. If you need your DP to see what it's like for you in the week, video it. Sorted.

@running 👍 thanks also

This is normal. My son used to cry if I popped to the toilet, left the room etc. With his dad, he was fine. It's because you are her main carer, she has a very close bond with you. At about 18 months, my son decided I was rubbish and wanted his dad all the time. You're not doing anything wrong.