To not be feeling Christmas this year AT ALL

[Parkingwarsaga]

Come and stop me being the Grinch and spoiling it for everyone.

This year has been for many reasons really utterly shit, be glad to see the back of it. My Mum is currently also ill with a serious condition which will eventually be terminal and has not been at all well.
The kids are both older and asking for money or vouchers of something.
They are in school until Friday the 22nd (??!) so we cannot go to any of the Christmas stuff on offer locally as much of it is during the day in that last week before.
We are pretty much just holding thread financially.

Seriously I see everyone out shopping and at stuff and brass bands playing and I've had enough.
Bah humbug!

Me too! Unlike me as I normally love Christmas but I'm just not feeling it this year.

I’m the same.

We had an elf visit for ds this morning which was fun but still not feeling it at all.

Me too. I love Christmas usually, but this year I’m just thinking I can’t wait for January.

I was only very marginally organised & then I broke my leg 2 weeks ago 😩

Now I'm struggling to do anything. No Christmas cards as can't post them

My poor dh is struggling to work & do everything else & I've realised how useless my kids are around the house

On the plus side, I can watch Christmas movies to my hearts content lol

I'm 33w pregnant, have been diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes and have just gone NC with a sibling (so won't be going to my folks as I do each and every Christmas)

My kids are driving me mad.... Not listening to anything I say, trashing everything in the house and DP is like a bear with a sore head.

I am working all over Xmas, bar the bank holidays.

I am tempted to cancel Christmas this year.

Same here. Too much shit and stress going on I just cannot be bothered to get excited. We have no decorations up. DC haven’t complained so i’ll See how long I can get away with it.

Me too. But it’s not just this year, it’s every bloody year.

We’re in a new house. It desperately needs things doing but instead of spending money on that (which we would benefit from for years to come!) we’re spending money on bloody golf balls and shit toiletries for my in laws!

I’ve bought every single present. I’ll wrap every single present. I am busy ferrying DC and DH to a range of different Christmas themed events and parties and I’ll not attend ONE night out due to lack of childcare. (The one night out that was arranged clashed with DH’s works do).

The toddler has got a chest infection. The eldest has regressed from toilet training and I’ve got a 4mth DD who is just doing what babies do.

New house is dark. I can’t get the clothes dry. I’ve got a bouncy chair, a jumperoo and a play mat out so there’s no room for a ridiculous Christmas shrub, never mind the mountains of consumerist plastic tat we’ll no doubt have to find room for. I do quite like Turkey but since everyone has a relaxing day on Christmas Day I’ll be left to clean up the mess by myself on Boxing Day. There’s always a lot of recycling rubbish to get rid of so no doubt I’ll either nag for DH to take it to the tip on the 27th and then end up doing it myself just to avoid an argument.

It’s Dark. I think I could probably cope with all this shit if it happened in July but I really struggle in the winter.

Gosh. I’ve really got it on me haven’t I. That was cathartic. Thank you for listening.

I don’t think YABU at all. I usually love Christmas but I am really down about everything this year. Had to change jobs due to a restructure and former friend and colleague stabbed me in the back to get the one we both went for. Less money and more hours in new job and different base so further to travel. I have a 1yo and 8yo. Little one has been ill with a virus for about 2 weeks which I have now got, husband has been working away a lot and we have no family nearby. Oldest has ASD and so we can’t just go along to organised fun. I’m exhausted, miserable and find myself crying every day. Haven’t written a single card, wrapped a single present or put decorations up yet. I wish I could bypass everything at the moment tbh not just Christmas. Am dreading the new year as well sorry just added to the misery there rather than help you out of your mood

I'm in the same situation as you re: terminally ill mum (, it's shit innit) and just can't be arsed when people ask me for present lists for me, the dc, dh, the entire extended family etc etc. Very close to biting heads off tbh.

But I'm trying to squeeze in some festive activities for the dds (12 and 14, so basically shopping and eating ) on the rare days I'm not emptying commodes. Don't think I'm going to be feeling it much though.

Same here. DH has been seriously ill and is still going to be in hospital on Christmas Day, so we're not going to be celebrating until he comes home anyway. I'd started the shopping before he got ill, but our decorations aren't up and won't go up until the weekend before (2yo DD hasn't got a clue luckily), not listened to any Christmas songs or watched films, wrapped presents or written cards etc... it's a big contrast to all the years previous though, I usually love it!

you are not alone in feeling this way really sorry about your Mum.

Hi yippeekiyay2 I just wanted to post as you sound quite down. Is it possible you have PND, or just depression generally? I'd maybe pop along to the Drs for a chat.

Think when you are having a shit time, the best way round it is to focus on the little bits of Christmas that you either like or are advnatageous. Ok, your kids want gifts and vouchers, that saves time and wrapping paper. Annoying though it is, if you cannot make any festive events, at least you're not spending money on them. If you enjoy having a few Christmas treats at home do that, also Chrismas telly can be fun. I'm not a bit telly watcher but enjoy watching one or two of the Christmas specials. So sorry for those of you with terminally ill parents, have been there and know how hard it is especially at Christmas. Also, after all the fuss Christmas is over before you we know it.

I was looking forward to Xmas until my niece gave birth to a full term stillborn baby yesterday.

The whole family are numb with shock.

I'm meant to be hosting this year for everyone including niece and partner.

I feel sick at the thought of Xmas day now.

Oh Guest that is heartbreaking, I'm so sorry for you and your family. [Flowers].

to everybody else who is having a shit time too.

I'm not feeling it for no specific reason other than I just don't feel it and I can't be arsed to rouse myself into some festive cheer. Might try a bit of Christmas music whilst decorating the tree this arvo but I'm not holding my breath.

Much love Guest. My brother was still born so I very sadly understand the absolute heartbreak. Much strength to you all.

So sorr to hear the Guest. Love to you and your family

Guest Im so sorry to hear that.

Dec 2007 Recieve letter from HA saying all items in communal hallways must be removed or they will remove and dispose of them including DHs mobility scooter. Phone housing officer and explain. Get granted permission letter to keep it.

Dec 2011 same thing happens again ....get granted permission letter again.

November 2017.....last Thursday our new housing officer decided to introduce himself by pinning a tort notice to the wall downstairs saying that unless the mobility scooter is gone by 21 December they will take it and sell it to cover the cost of taking it.

It is kept under the stairs completely out of the way and we have prior permission.........TWICE. I phoned the HA and spoke to someone who first asked us to send a copy of a prior permission letter to prove we have permission.

I explained that putting us through all this was in breach of section 149 of the Equality Act and he did get it after a couple of times.........this wasnt the HO i spoke to it was someone else.

He said he would send us a copy of a prior permission letter which he has done. He sent us the one from Dec 2007. We also hunted for our original letters from 2007 and 2011 We found the original 2007 one but also have the new copy he sent us. We cant find the 2011 one. But i did find an old thread of mine from 2011 talking about this on another site so was able to quote dates from when they tried this in 2011.

Now we have the stress and worry of them taking it....... at Christmas for the THIRD time completing the hat trick!

This is the third time they have done this in the run up to Christmas

Helena - get the permission letters laminated and stick them to the mobility scooter? I know you shouldn't have to but I have a similar issue with my bins.

How devastatingGuest I can't imagine how difficult that must be. I hope you all make it through Christmas as best you can.

Me too. Overall this year has been really shit. I hate Christmas, every year it stresses me out so much I get physically ill. I've been pooing water since Friday and people are doing my head in. I've got so much work to do but there's no way I'm going to make it in. I've hardly done any Christmas shopping and the snow is making me want to fly into a rage!! I feel your pain

I stopped 'feeling' Christmas about 10 years ago. I just keep it as low key and simple as possible and pretend I'm enjoying it for the sake of others but I can't wait for it to be over.

I'm not interested this year either! We have a 5 mo dd and it's her first Christmas so I should be excited. But instead im filled with dread at the travelling to family (they refuse to come to us) with a baby who screams constantly in the car! And being forced to attend all day family events far from home with a baby who is a terrible napper at home let alone where strange but if she doesn't nap she is horrendous. With my family who are hugley critical of my parenting skills because they cant undetstand why dd cant go 12 hours with no napd and be happy and smiley all the time!!! It's going to be a nightmare and I can't wait for it to be over.

I'm really sorry to hear about your mum and I hope that Christmas is bearable

Cathster

Chicken done. Its their whole attitude over it It really stinks.