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AIBU?

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Aibu or really naive - 6 year old searching for naked girls on youtube??

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Millie1977 · 10/12/2017 06:27

Am completely flabbergasted to find last night my just turned 6 year old on my phone typing into search 'YouTube naked girls'.

I was right next to him but noticed he seemed abit shifty so looked over to see what he was doing, he quickly switched my phone off, so said oh what you up to and switched it back on.

We've always been open with him, don't hide nakedness, happy to talk about whatever.

But keep trying to put this in perspective then filling up with fear about where this has come from??? Should I speak to school to warn them, as can only think it's something that's been said at school. He says his friend was talking about it but then says no he wasn't.

I didn't make a huge thing of it, he knew he shouldn't have been doing it as immediate reaction was tears and not to tell dad which worries me too!

Go gentle please am feeling traumatised!

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Pengggwn · 10/12/2017 06:33

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WunWun · 10/12/2017 06:34

I would definitely speak to the school and mention the name of his friend.

BlondeB83 · 10/12/2017 06:37

Tell the school/name the friend. This doesn’t come from nowhere.

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Millie1977 · 10/12/2017 06:54

Thank you, we will go in tomorrow.

Yesterday morning he was watching diggers and trains on YouTube, now this.

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CappuccinoCake · 10/12/2017 06:57

Could it simply be wondering what a girl looks like? But of course with access to the internet it's all so much worse? :(

It's a normal age to be curious about the differences from a purely factual perspective. I'd tell the school though.

I'd be careful about the friend in case he was inventing the friend to get out of trouble...

RefuseTheLies · 10/12/2017 07:06

I can’t say I’d be massively bothered about this. It’s surely just child-like curiosity about bodies? It’s the kind of thing I’d have looked up online if the interwebz had been around when I was that age.

VivaLeBeaver · 10/12/2017 07:11

My nephew did this when he was about 7 or 8. He hasnt turned into a sex obsessed pervert so I would say it’s normal curiosity.

VivaLeBeaver · 10/12/2017 07:12

But I’d be making sure parental controls were on on the internet, sure you have already.

EleanorXx · 10/12/2017 07:17

It's probably just curiosity. He's become aware of his body and is wondering what others are like. Make sure too install parental controls and make sure you can see the screen when he's online so he doesn't see anything to unsavoury.

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Millie1977 · 10/12/2017 07:18

Knew mumsnet would have some top advice, thank you.

I have just ordered a body book about boys and girls to sit with him and read through and help him ask questions.

Thanks Beaver am pleased to hear we probably haven't got a potential sex pest .

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EasterRobin · 10/12/2017 07:35

I was going to suggest what you've just done. It's perfectly normal at that age to want to know what people look like and that there are important differences between boys and girls, men and women. I'd make sure his curiosity is sated with lots of age-appropriate info that he can review with you first and by himself after.

His curiosity is healthy and not a concern - more worrying is what the Internet would give him in response.

Chchchchangeabout · 10/12/2017 07:57

Could it have come up as an automatic search term he clicked on - e.g. He wrote the you tube bit then clicked on the suggested phrase?

PrincessoftheSea · 10/12/2017 07:59

Normal curiosity but time to get net nanny

GeorgieBoy95 · 10/12/2017 08:13

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Animation86 · 10/12/2017 08:18

^ mine could? It’s completely possible

LostInTheTunnelOfGoats · 10/12/2017 08:21

It sounds like he was simply curious, however it would be worth while mentioning to the school. A similar situation happened in a school I used to work in and it turned out one of the boys was accessing hardcore porn at home.

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Millie1977 · 10/12/2017 08:23

Thank you all for your friendly calming advice!

Apart from georgieboy!

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TheMaddHugger · 10/12/2017 08:46

He's a smart little cookie to get that Youtube search going. I remember my nephew doing something similar at that age.

Time for Net nanny

EnglishGirlApproximately · 10/12/2017 08:51

Ds is nearly six and I’d be gobsmacked if he did this so in understand your shock. He hasn’t so far shown any curiosity about his body or the difference between bits and girls, I obviously naively imagined that was a few years away! I think you’ve handled it well OP and I would mention it to school, if your sons talking about it others will be so it makes sense for the teacher to be prepared to answer questions.
Fwiw, my five year old would be able to work out the spelling if he really concentrated.

EnglishGirlApproximately · 10/12/2017 08:52

boys and girls.

LalaLeona · 10/12/2017 13:27

Wow he must be amazing at spelling and using the Internet to do this st 6 years old?! Think you need to keep him offline more!

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