to find this frustrating?

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DH asked if I minded him meeting a friend for a drink this afternoon. We were going into town so he said he will meet his friend when we come home. All fine. Stated he was going to be out for "literally just an hour". He has so far been gone for 3.
I have no issue with him going out. I wouldn't mind if he stayed out all night. I just wish he would say that rather than saying an hour and not doing what he says or at least getting in touch after an hour (or even 2) and saying he is staying for another pint and will be longer than expected. I know I would certainly do this, wouldn't other considerate people do so as well?

Yanbu, it is frustrating. DH used to do this. Say "I'll be an hour" and after three or more hours I'd be pissed off (or worried sometimes, but more usually pissed off). Once after I challenged it he said "Sure I was never going to only be an hour. (Place I'm going to) is nearly an hour away on its own."

WHY FUCKING SAY YOU'LL BE AN HOUR THEN?!!

Yanbu, when we were at uni now dh used to do this all the time. He'd call me saying he was having one last pint then will be back. 2 hrs later I'd get another call, this time it's definitely the last pint... it really pissed me off as we didn't live together then and if he hadn't kept calling me I would've gone to bed and he could've gone back to his place.

Interesting how at work men don't do this and somehow manage to estimate time perfectly adequately

Well he's home now - apparently he really was planning to be an hour, not including travel time! Still 3.5 hours is more than travel time .

But u mean an hour then you chat and look at watch and realise 2 hours have gone

I get a lot little pissed off when my DW goes out to meet a friend and does not let me know that she will be longer than expected. A couple of weeks ago she left me in a pub while she went away for half an hour, 3 hours later she came back. I had tried phoning after 2 hours but she did not hear it.
I just wish she would let me know so I stop worrying about her

I do this sometimes, I fully intend to just stay for an hour but then get engrossed with friends or am just, you know, enjoying myself.

I let DH know I'm going to be later than originally planned, but I'd be pretty fed up if he was pissed off I was having fun and wanted to stay out, unless there was some reason I needed to be home. Likewise if he's out, unless we have plans,there's no need for him to rush home if he's enjoying himself.

Council if he text and said "oops sorry lost track of time, be back in an hour is". That would be fine. I text him almost 3 hours later and asked when he would be home.

YANBU, op! DP used to do this all the time and could never understand why I'd be pissed off. He thought I had a problem with him going out but my problem was him saying I'll be home by x time and x time comes and goes and I haven't heard a peep out of him! So then I'd ring or text asking is he on his way etc (usually due to other plans or dinner etc) and he'd reply saying I'm leaving soon/just finishing my drink etc so I'd leave him a reasonable amount of time plus travel time and he STILL wouldn't be home. Then the whole process starts all over again and he'd roll it 5 hours later.

I feel it shows lack of respect and is pure thoughtlessness. Like I don't matter, he's doing his thing, and fuck me I can wait!