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AIBU?

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Mil you are a nasty two faced bitch oh sorry former mil

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oldstudentmum · 09/12/2017 00:50

So again mil you are treating the children differently, what a surprise so does your wonderful son. Apples don’t fall to far from tree do they nasty woman.
Send birthday card and present to my daughter but not son? Send Santa letter to daughter not son - you are a total fucking bitch. Yes you two faced cow I see through you. What a nasty piece of work you are just like the rest of your family .
It’s very upsetting to see a four year olds face when big sister gets a letter and he doesn’t. Ah you going to say got lost in post?
So glad I saw you for the two faced piece of shit you are. Why don’t you go shag that married man in a hotel again, you know the one who’s wife has cancer and you know her. BITCH.
Well screw you as actual Santa sent his letter to both kids last week and so they are being really nice lol 😂 totally amazed by Santa knowingly them! And knowing what they actually want, as kids aren’t grabby
Yes you are responsible for how your shit bag sons have turnt out, you bought them up, well until 16 + and so I’ve been told through them out.!

Your son ha ha won’t go to hospital when son needs to go because of long term spine probs you stick up for him!!!!!!lol
Never been there when son has been inpatient tell him to F.C. U.K.

OP posts:

Booboobooboo84 · 09/12/2017 00:55

I’m not sure your mil will see this.... try gransnet 😈😈

Mumof56 · 09/12/2017 00:56

Complains about not getting presents> are not Grabby

calls sons shit bags> has 2 kids with aforementioned shit bags

Something irrelevant about her sex life

What's it to you of you ex goes to the doctor or not

have you sought help for your anger?

Iwasjustabouttosaythat · 09/12/2017 00:59

Seriously, maybe you need to just tell your son that he's not a blood relation of hers? I assume that's the case?

smurfit · 09/12/2017 02:13

@Mumof56 you assume a lot. It's not always as easy as 'leave and don't have children with them', particularly if the situation is abusive... She's not complaining about no gifts, she's complaining about a blatant golden child/scape goat situation.

Whoyagonna · 09/12/2017 02:18

My ex-MIL will defend her son to the death. So much so that she sat in court with me opposite with a big bruised head on me thanks to her son in order to post bail for him. And guess what? It's my fault.
I get your anger.
Expect NOTHING from ex-MILs.

Whoyagonna · 09/12/2017 02:18

Apparently her son was a lovely guy until he met me. Lol. I turned him into a violent lunatic apparently.

Cavender · 09/12/2017 02:19

Intercept the mail, and withhold from your DD anything your DS doesn’t also get.

Disengage from your ex Mil, she doesn’t have to be your problem.

Take a few deep breaths, calm down and just don’t play her game. Getting angry just gives her power.

Littlefrogletx · 09/12/2017 02:26

I haven't had to even think of my ex mil once since I split with ex. It's total bliss. But I feel your pain, but remember the ex bit!

ShirleyPhallus · 09/12/2017 03:01

Genuinley never understand these open letters on MN.....

AstridWhite · 09/12/2017 03:18

me neither Shirley

Is there a back story here? I thought the son not receiving anything from Granny was because he might have have been a step-grandchild that she no longer feels connected to now the OP is her ex SIL. But as he's the youngest that wouldn't make sense.

Mirrormirrorotw · 09/12/2017 03:30

ITs called venting.

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 09/12/2017 03:56

Complains about not getting presents> are not Grabby
four year old isn't complaining about not getting presents he's confused to why his big sister is getting something from his granny that he isn't. To him He's the same as his big sister, so to him it's unfair his granny treats him so differently! And by the way it is unfair and probably heartbreaking for his mum to watch his face.

calls sons shit bags> has 2 kids with aforementioned shit bags er yes people make mistakes, maybe it was an abusive relationship and OP couldn't get out, maybe the full shit bag didn't show its self until after she'd had her second child, maybe her ex had an affair after their second child, lots of things change.

Something irrelevant about her sex life this I'll give you, but maybe it's an illustration of how badly the ex mother in law treats people in general. Ok I'm not sure it was needed but heat of the moment.

What's it to you of you ex goes to the doctor or not it's everything to do with the mother of her sons child that her son won't go to hospital to visit his son who's in hospital having spine isssues! Again it's her that has to deal with a four year old that doesn't understand his daddy being so mean and unfair.

have you sought help for your anger? it's called venting it helps with anger. Have you sought help with your judgy pants and your lack of compassion.

Seriously, maybe you need to just tell your son that he's not a blood relation of hers? I assume that's the case? why the hell would you jump to that conclusion! I'd assume that both children of a couple were well related to the fathers mother!

Splinterz · 09/12/2017 04:34

Are both children your ex's or is there some doubt over parentage?

LostSight · 09/12/2017 06:02

Intercept the mail, and withhold from your DD anything your DS doesn’t also get.

Disengage from your ex Mil, she doesn’t have to be your problem.

Take a few deep breaths, calm down and just don’t play her game. Getting angry just gives her power.

This. Sounds shit oldstudent, but congratulations on having removed the shitbag son. Hang in there.

Mummyoflittledragon · 09/12/2017 06:29

Naught 👏👏
She sounds like a total bitch. She has brought up a manchild. I agree with what LostSight. And yes, anger gives her power.

ReturnOfTheMackYesItIs · 09/12/2017 06:35

I don't think she'll see it here.

BulletFox · 09/12/2017 06:39

It's supposed to be cathartic writing a letter but not sending it!

SlowlyShrinking · 09/12/2017 06:50

She sounds horrible. The favourite chil thing isn’t good for either of your kids. Try and distance yourself from her

CocaColaTruck · 09/12/2017 06:54

I'm confused about the relationships here. Is she related to both DCs?

Anniegetyourgun · 09/12/2017 07:17

Wait, I didn't quite follow the spine problems thing. Is it your son, the 4-year-old, who has the problems and MIL's son (ie child's daddy) who won't get help/visit? I initially read it that MIL's son wasn't dealing with his own spine problems but it can't be that. Is it possible that she is ignoring her own grandchild because he isn't "perfect"?

In any case sounds like one of those grandparents your children would benefit from seeing as little as possible.

Anniegetyourgun · 09/12/2017 07:18

Not "get help/visit", just "who won't help/visit". Careless editing, sorry.

frogmellah · 09/12/2017 07:49

Are both children your ex's or is there some doubt over parentage?

Ouch

NaughtToThreeSadOnions · 09/12/2017 10:47

annie I read it as there's a missing his in the sentence so

Your son won't go to hospital when his son needs to go because of long term spine problems and you defend your son.

So the granny thinks it's ok that her son doesn't go to hospital with his son. Because it's obviously ok for the granny and the father to treat this 4 year old differently to how they treat his sister.

Two people have now suggested there's doubts over the boys parentage yes that's right blame the mother, fantastic yes! Why would you assume that. Men and mother in laws can be shit bags and bitches why doubt a child's parentage

Giggorata · 09/12/2017 10:59

My ex mother in law tried this, sending Xmas presents only to her birth grandchild, and was told by my indignant oldest that it wasn't fair to leave his little (half) brother out.... she started buying for both.

ButchyRestingFace · 09/12/2017 11:52

Are both children your ex's or is there some doubt over parentage?

Ouch grin

Tbf, I was going to suggest a DNA test to set their minds at ease.

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