Confident to a mess in minutes!

[Fedupwithmyselfasalways]

Not so much an AIBU.... more a WWYD? Or can you give me some advice??

I have a great job but a massive problem ...

When I'm at work, when I start to feel good about myself (that I did well at something, that people liked me or my work, that a project went well), I immediately tell myself I'm an arrogant arse and start beating myself up to the the point that I feel a complete mess, no confidence, think everyone hates me, and I want to hide/run away and think I'm incapable.

What is wrong with me? Why can't I just feel in the middle ?

Have you ever felt like this? Do you think I might come across arrogant when I feel confident? And how can I avoid this? How can I stop beating myself up if I think I have (or actually have) acted like an arrogant tit?

Anyone?

I think we are so good at telling ourselves all the negative things about ourselves we can't handle self praise. Nothing wrong with feeling proud, or happy you did a god job. As long as you don't become outwardly arrogant and over bearing with self praise go for it. Pat yourself on the back and smile. You earned it

I can empathise with this. I tend to be hard on myself but am outwardly fairly impassive and often get comments like “nothing seems to ever stress you out” which couldn’t be farther from the truth! I don’t know if it’s an inherent bloke thing in my case or a conditioning thing, but I find it hard to communicate my feelings without spelling them out in words. It’s like I have an autopilot response.

In your case, it might be the ‘feels too good to be true/must be a catch somewhere’ phenomenon that some people seem to get. It’s unlikely that you come across as arrogant if you are being so acutely reflective of your behaviour.

Thanks stig and cookie