To think that some people love bossing others around?

[malificent7]

I love my job ( both of them) and in one role there are about 3 managers.
one manager is lovely, always smiling, always keen to help. The other two seem to find fault a lot.
I am keen to learn and although they havnt trained me i am fine kwarning on the job. When they pull me up on an error i learn from it and correct myself. Trouble is one of them especially seems very keen to find fault and no matter how many times i correct a mistake she will find something else to correct.
The manager in my role is lovely and treats me as an equal. I respect the mnice managers so much more whereas the other two just make me feel anxious.

Aibu to think that some people just love bossing others around and get on a bit of a power trip about it? Dont they realise that if they are kind and reasobable people are more willing to work for them?

I teach and one reason why i dont enjoy is it that im not naturally bossy...it feels forced and i get no pleasure from it.

Nice managees not mnice managers!!

Anyone?

Dont they realise that if they are kind and reasobable people are more willing to work for them?

You've answered your own question!!

Some people always look back and point out failures others look at failures, learn from them and improve

You'll do well!

Yeah course. It’s sad. The only way they find power and fulfilment is berating other people. They’ll never be good mangers.

@malificent7

You have my sympathy.

There are always people who thik they know better than you. It's funny, all the experts in the world, who really know how to work the levers of government, all seem to be wasting their considerable knowhow propping up the bar in Weatherspoons, driving taxis and phoning talk radio shows.

And, of course, issuing glib advice on Mumsnet. (No no, that's not a dig at you, maleficent7. It's a reference to a pompous lecture I was given by a halfwit with delusions of grandeur, who decided to give me unsolicited advice on how to talk to people on Mumsnet.)

My friend advised me that the best thing you can do is not worry about the people whose responses you can't change. Like the people who insist on correcting you.

The more self important they are and short tempered they are, generally speaking, the less intelligent.

They think they are impressive because they speak teir own special secret language.

Whoa! Look out everyone: @patheticPencil's got an acronym and a caps lock: AND SHE Knows HOW TO USE IT!!

LBW!

So take heart, you are not alone.

I get people correcting me all the time. "Excuse me," they'll say, all huffy, "that is MY laundry basket!"

Why do you keep making so many mistakes? I'd like to think that the manager who points out all your mistakes, is actually working with you. If you didn't realise you'd made so many mistakes without them being pointed out, you wouldn't be learning from this managers advice. Next time you are corrected, say thank you.

Nobodys child, I hope you're not a manager

My sympathies, Malificent. I had to work with someone like that about this time of year several years ago, and it was a nightmare. It really affected me, being around someone like that for almost 24 hours a day, seven days a week (it was live-in care work).

She was an example of what MoistCanteloupe said: "the only way they find power and fulfilment is berating other people."
I wish I had useful advice on the subject, but the only thing to do with people like that is get away from them.

I wouldn't waste my time there. Id continue to work well but go all out to find another job. I really cannot abide power trippers, I don't allow them anywhere near me in my personal life and really would not want to work with one.

If I could be bothered I'd wonder what was missing in their personal life and self-esteem, that they live for coming into work and being nastily petty, using their position to get away with it. I can't be bothered though, so I'd leave. Life is really too short for some situations.

I think i made so many mistakes as i wasn't trained properly.
I am on a zero hour contract so they cant be bothered to train us. As it is care work i think proper training is a mhst but this is the climate we live in. Its learn on the job.
i have an interview Monday so fingers crossed!

Now I see how mistakes are happening. You are right, training is essential for those who work in the care sector. Any mistakes can have dire consequences for the service user. I don't agree it's the climate we live in, it's down to the company to ensure all it's employees adhere to the strict guidelines, that each company must abide by.

Even if training was available - there are good ways to correct mistakes and bad ways

One is effective the other create huge staff turnover

Some people definitely love bossing other people around, and others are just under the impression that’s how you manage people.

My last manager did this and I eventually summoned up my courage and said “Kathleen, I tune you out when you just criticize. I need, if you’ll pardon my language, a shit sandwich. I need some good occasionally sandwiched in between the layers of bad.”

And to my amazement she got better!! I was on the verge of quitting, and so felt I had little to lose.

Ive had some very peculiar managers who all seemed to get their kicks in different ways.

There was the one who picked at her long fingernails when telling me off on icy tones...freaky.
There was the one who i saw twice in a year. She fixed me with an icy stare when i made a mistake and yes...she had not trained me.
There was the one who couldnt handle the child i was working with and whos idea of supervision was to heavily criticise...making me feel worse.
There was also the one who wanted to be called maam instead of her real name...just like the queen!

All on a power trip...all of them shite. And sadly most of them female

My worst managers have all been women. Maybe I’ve just been lucky, but the men have been fine - had one crappy male boss who was a workaholic, but he never got personal about it like the female bosses (who seem to take mistakes incredibly fucking personally).