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That Christmas is for kids?

34 replies

watermirror · 08/12/2017 18:03

It seems to be that it is something adults get dragged/forced into for spending money purposes, but the events at this time of year are primarily aimed at children?

Aibu to want to ban for childless adults the trill of ‘done all your Christmas shopping?’ I don’t have any to do, sigh!

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Emerald92 · 08/12/2017 18:58

In our house, Christmas is about DD and the two of us. It's spending time together just us three. We see family all the time and I hate the 'forced family time associated with Christmas.

Honestly, I look forward to the presents and food. I don't swallow the whole 'can't wait to see all my family' crap. Envy Not envy!

RaindropsAndSparkles · 08/12/2017 19:01

I love Christmas.

I love the lights, the parties, getting cards every day, the present buying and giving, the goodwill, the carols, the msgs from friends not often seen. The house becoming festive, poinsettias and trees, concerts and of yore school nativity productions. Cinnamonny candles and mulled wine, advent - for real and in calendars.

From about the 22nd the arrival of family and friends, stolen and mince pies, baked ham, Turkey, wonderful smells, cold cuts on boxing day after a race or hunt meet, pickles and cheese, smoked salmon, good wine and Turkey and ham pie preceded by parsnip and Turkey stock soup on 27th.

Crackers and laughs, awful telly and sprouty farts.

Crib services, midnight mass, donations to a shelter, Christmas mass, the cheer and the blessings and shiny faces not necessarily used to church who might come back.

My own son's birthday ...........

What's not to like. My children are nearly grown at 22 and 19. The best ever thing is listening to their memories and keeping it special so they want to keep coming home. We never had that.

hate wrapping though - terrible job!

bananafish81 · 08/12/2017 19:42

What's not to like.

Not everyone has family to celebrate with. Not everyone has children and nativity productions and concerts. Not everyone is Christian and goes to church.

If there's just two of you and Christmas is a time of sad memories, it's not necessarily the riotous time of family jollity you describe

It's great that your Christmas is so lovely, but it's not the case for everyone. And being surrounded with wall to wall 'Christmas is a time for feasting and family' narratives, can you understand why that might make it even worse for those who don't have family to make merry with?

Tapandgo · 08/12/2017 20:44

Christmas is a celebration for everybody who wants to take part. No idea where the ‘Christmas is just for children’ crapology started. It’s a lovely opportunity to bring people together ......and yes, it can be a difficult time for those who are alone at Christmas, not by choice.

Ecureuil · 08/12/2017 20:48

I bloody loved Christmas pre children. Parties, nights out with friends, good food etc. I still had plenty of people to buy presents for... just because people are child free it doesn’t mean they don’t buy presents, does it?

mumonashoestring · 08/12/2017 20:58

Fuck that.

A couple of weeks off work with no heaving inbox to go back to because plenty of other people are off too, a chance to shop and buy lovely things for other people who won't feel awkward about accepting them because, after all, it's the done thing, lovely extravagant food, pretty decorations, a few nice things I wouldn't usually buy myself? No, Christmas is not just for the kids Xmas Grin

RaindropsAndSparkles · 08/12/2017 22:00

But bananafish I can as easily imagine a quiet, work free Christmas with smoked salmon and champagne in bed watching telly.

Crumbs1 · 08/12/2017 22:48

The whole notion that the world should be child centric is damaging to society. Christmas is the second most important Christian feast. It’s for everyone. It’s about family and friends, peace and goodwill, shared meals and reflecting on the important things in life.
The mountain of plastic tat children receive is not really what Christmas is about. Screeching, overexcited and overindulged children are not really what Christmas is about. Children are very much part of Christmas but it’s not all about them.

EDSFI · 08/12/2017 23:19

Am sick to death of the whole “Christmas is just for kids thing!”, am even going to go as far as saying I like receiving gifts and giving them (little or small) even through I have 3 small children. I love the food, seeing friends and family and basically everything which goes with it!

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