Spending more on dc at xmas

[Numberonecook]

Mil asked what we wanted for Christmas. I said we didn’t want anything huge this year as we are feeling the pinch too so ‘just a bit of something’

Well she’s gone off on one! She was angry saying we’ve bought DS a new phone (he’s 15 and his is old and broken) and dd1 an iPad and Dd2 a console so we were being tight with everyone else. It’s not like I said she’s getting nothing!

Aibu to spend more on my own DC? We have saved all year with no holidays, treats etc to get these things for the kids. Normally she’s quite reasonable

Battier than a fruit bat, sitting on a cricket bat.

Of course you spend the most on your own dc. Was she expecting an iPad? 😂

YANBU, I spend as much as I want on my children and I have a large family and I spend less on them.

Clearly batshit is she usually so greedy? Did she expect a new xbox

Whaaaat?!?! Of course you spend more on your own children! And it’s none of her business what you spend on your children anyway. Crazy talk!!

2 things..... how does she know what you are getting them ?..... and.... I don't see how that relates to what she asked you. You've put in your OP that she asked you what you wanted. You didn't say you've said you aren't getting her (or others) anything, did you?

She asked what we wanted I said something small as we are feeling the pinch so we’ll be only buying a little bit of something for everyone.

She’s usually ok and accepts gifts graciously. Don’t know what’s got into her thought I maybe being a bit tight

Maybe she did want an iPad lol

She knows what we are getting them because DH told her when she asked him last week what we were getting DC :)

Although it is none of her business, perhaps she was feeling disappointed/cross/sad that you spend so much on your children when you admit you are 'feeling the pinch a bit'. Perhaps she feels that you aren't budgeting properly and she doesn't like to see you struggling, yet indulging your children? If that is true, then she hasn't expressed it very clearly. I may be way off the mark though .

I don’t get this thing where family members sound out how much others are going to spend in order to spend the same in exchange. It just becomes a bizarre and pointless transaction