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to be REALLY P****ED OFF with my friend

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rabster · 20/04/2007 13:02

ok. So yesterday, my friend called to arrange meeting up today. she said about 11am. This morning, I get a call at 11.30 saying she will be another hour. she is still not here.

Now, I might not be doing anything today, but I could have taken ds out in the pram to get him to sleep. Or taken the dogs (who are currently whining outside, so they dont wake up ds by barking when she EVENTUALLY arrives) out. Or just got out of the goddamn house.

AAARRRRGGGGHHHH!!!! I HATE waiting!!!

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mateychops · 20/04/2007 13:04

Has she given a good reason?

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rabster · 20/04/2007 13:05

she was going to be another hour cos she needed a shower. This is just bloody inconsiderate. But I don't know her well enough to tell her!

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mateychops · 20/04/2007 13:05

But she knows you well enough to keep you waiting?

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rabster · 20/04/2007 13:06

If ds wasnt asleep I would go out.

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rabster · 20/04/2007 13:06

ah ha here she is....
angry!

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nappyaddict · 20/04/2007 13:07

i am guilty of quite often being late but for someone i don't know too well never more than half an hour. i ususally blame the bus

Idreamofdaleks · 20/04/2007 13:07

I don't think that people who have this sort of attitude to punctuality ever change... so unless you want this to happen constantly I would stop making this kind of arrangement with her!

mateychops · 20/04/2007 13:09

Hope she smells nice.

Y0rkshirelass · 20/04/2007 13:09

I have a friend who does this, drives me mad.
I have taken to inviting her over at X o'clock, but letting her know I'm going out at Y o'clock. That way if she wants to spend time with me before I go out she will turn up on time.

LoveMyGirls · 20/04/2007 13:15

I had a lady come to see me about caring for her baby yesterday we arranged 2pm at 2.15 i rang to ask if she was lost no i just got baby to sleep ill come at 3 - er no ill be on school run but you can come at 3.30 - of course she turned out to be lovely and not at all like i was imagining but still its inconsiderate not to even phone and just assume the other person has got the whole day to wait around for when you decide to show up. I'd be angry too and would only invite her to things that lots of people are going to so you're not waiting for her on your own.

newgirl · 20/04/2007 14:52

that is so rude! id have said sorry I've got to take the dogs out etc you can come at x time later

Furrymummy · 20/04/2007 14:56

I have a friend who's like this - it's a running joke amongst our group of friends that X is never on time coz he is always washing his hair (not that he's got blahdy much!). We always arrange to meet up at x time, and then tell him we're meeting half an hour before x, so then he'll be on time

IcingOnTheCake · 20/04/2007 14:57

I hate lateness, it's so rude. I always think if they know they have to meet you then they should give enough time to get there. I had a friend once who was ment to meet me in town at 1pm, so she got the 12.55pm bus!

lisad123 · 20/04/2007 14:57

did she ever turn up?

SleepIsForTheWeak · 20/04/2007 15:09

LOL, mateychops!

LittleSarah · 20/04/2007 15:21

I absolutely hate stuff like that.

On Mothers' Day I was making lunch for my mum at her house, my sister was bringing soup to have first. I said could you please be 'sharp' ie on time at the latest, preferably a little early. She arrives 20 minutes late, as do my grandparents, then later my ex also arrives about 25 minutes late with dd!!

A couple of weeks ago at dd's birthday, for which I had made lots of food my dad and his girlfriend were 45 minutes late! What really fecked me off was that they didn't even phone, I phoned after half an hour and it was like, oh yes, sorry, we're on our way, problem with, blah blah. I mean the least they could do if phone.

DRIVES. ME. MAD.

Oh, one more, my bf, lovely in every other way is always late. Grr. Grr. So last night we were meeting for dinner, we were meeting outside and it was cold so I asked her to please not be late (so I wouldn't be hanging around in the cold). Of course she was there first for once, obviously feeling guilty that I had to ask her not to be late!

LieselVentouse · 20/04/2007 16:01

Yeah I think if I was her I would have made sure I wasnt late

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rabster · 20/04/2007 16:41

well, she did turn up eventually, and I did explain that I could have got things done like walk the dogs, get some shopping etc that I otherwise find hard to fit in the day with a young baby,
she was very apologetic.
I like asking someone not to be late though, what a great idea!!

but really, I hate lateness - I always try to be on time, and if I can do it with a 12 week baby, I'm sure someone without kids can do it. grrr

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nappyaddict · 20/04/2007 17:05

i have a friend who is always late too (much worse than me) and we also do the thing of telling them to come half an hour before we want them cos then we know they'll be here on time(ish)

RedFraggle · 20/04/2007 17:32

This drives me bonkers! It is probably even worse as I am usually early, so it makes them seem even later...
Also, am I the only one who thinks that a LOT of people use small children as an excuse for their own crapness in the time-keeping department. (RedFraggle ducks head to avoid being slapped)
I have an almost 2 year old and yet have still not had a problem being on time for pretty much everything since she was born. However, a huge number of my friends (and my sister) with children of the same age are always late. and they always say "Oh Jimbob needed a nappy change" as though that makes it ok. Grrr (RedFraggle's head explodes in rage)

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