WIBU to have just left?

[Pickleypickles]

Hello mumsnet I just wanted some opinions before the inevitable argument later.

Basically my best friend wanted me to go to hers today to help with her banking app because she has blocked her self out of it and it and is a bit rubbish with technology. She lives 10 miles away and im a single mum on a budget it costs just under £5 for me to do the round trip but she refuses to come here because she hates busses and point blank refuses to get on one and doesnt drive (she is in her 50s!)

Anyway i said i would go today the conversation went like this
Me:"Ive got an appointment and 10 and i need to go asda for christmas lights so ill come after that"
Her:"ok yeah ive got the docs at 9.30 and then im in all day"

So i got there about 11 (before asda tbf) she wasnt in. She doesnt have a mobile either. So of i go to asda potter round taking my time go back to hers for 11.45. Still not in. Sit outside for ten minutes then said fuck it and came home.

Dd is only 9 months old and it was nearly dinner time which obviously i cant heat in the car not to mention its freezing and ive got bettter things to be doing than sit otside someones house with no way of knowing where they are or how long they will be.

This isnt the first time friend has done stuff like this but it always gets turned on me, she stays stuff like "you know what im like pickles" and "well if im not there im not there what do you want me to do?" in a dead snappy way, but then still sees her arse that she hasnt seen me to do whatever i was going to do for her and that she hasnt seen my baby like i maliciously planned to arrive when she wasnt there.

So seen as we never arranged a time as such should i have waited longer? Or would you do the same? If you would also leave what wohld you say to friend when she kicks off later about it?

(Friend suffers from depression and anxiety and blames everything on them and thinks she can do what she lile and if you have a problem you arent understanding of her illnesses, which i most definately am, i just dont think its an excuse to treat friends like shit)

Communication problem: Her:"ok yeah ive got the docs at 9.30 and then im in all day", ie there was no knowing when she'd be back from the doctor's. It might have taken a little longer. I guess you understand that she'd be there by 11:00. She didn't say that though.
Despite the back story, there is a chance that this time it was just a case of innocent misunderstanding. Wait to hear what she has to say.

I'm thinking that the best would have to organise it for the afternoon!

I'm guessing that trying to fit it around your appointment/Asda was convenient for you?

I'm not sure how you can think of someone who treats you so badly as a best friend!

YANBU she however, on the other had sounds rude, entitled and very much a victim of her mental health and plays on it. Fuck that. She wouldn't be my friend. I have anxiety and depression and I don't act like that!

Just get rid of her, I'd block her from all social media and her texts as well.
If she persists, I'd just say you have too much on and you want no further contact with her.
Unless she was taken really ill shes just a bitch OP.

No problem, be cheery if she bothers to apologise, bet she doesn't.

Next time she asks for a favour say you can't and say why. Or say you can't, you know me, silly old me, can't drive round the roundabout near you, I'm such a pickle, o dear, never mind