AIBU to keep daughter off school when I'm ill?

[Onceuponatartanshoelace]

Hi all,

I went under General Anesthesia a couple of days ago and have had help with DD since.. I'm still feeling pretty groggy but will be on my own tomorrow (I can function just a bit slower than normal).

DD is in first year of primary school so not major learning to be missed by one day off..

Would it be unreasonable to keep her off school tomorrow for a day so I don't have to walk the mile school run feeling foggy (in the impending storm) or should I just pull up my big girl pants and get on with it?

Thanks!

if you have a class wattsapp or similar can you ask on there for a friend to collect dd, and drop her home?
i would happily do that for dd classmates - and you can return the favour another time.

I'm not great at asking for help, I'm sure I'll survive the walk. Thank you all for your input and well wishes. I'm off to get some rest now.

It depends, will she be missing dress rehearsals of the school nativity or anything like that? My reception class dress rehearsal is watched by the older children so is quite a big deal when you are 4/5.

You should do whatever you think would make your day easier. Put yourself first.

Ignore the mn attendance police, stay home! She isn't compulsory school age yet and legally doesn't need to be there. Put some films on and rest.

A lot of schools offer a very short term pick up service. They don't tend to advertise it obviously, but if you call them and explain you are unable to get them in they may send out someone to get her for you. Only just found out my school offer it as a DF of mine had a very sick DC and no other options to get her other DC to school, so our welfare officer came to collect the non ill DC.

If your GA was for a procedure or op, and you’re still feeling groggy now, I’d keep her at home if there is nobody else to do drop off for you.

I certainly wouldn’t be walking a mile there and a mile back. You could always call and tell school predicament and ask if a TA could do the pick ups...as a one off.

Whatever is easiest for you, whether that's keeping her off and having a quiet day in together or sending her in so you have some peace and quiet for a few hours.

Don't get wound up by attendance stuff, or feel bad if you haven't got loads of family and friends to help out. Not everyone does.

Hope you recover quickly.

I think four miles in a day (one there, one back, one to collect, one back if that's what you mean) may actually be too much if you are suffering badly from a GA, or even the two miles. Not everyone bounces back, I had an awful reaction one time and felt very wobbly/unable to stand properly.

Perhaps ring the school and explain the problem or just have a day off. Walking four miles is an hour's walk, I think having a quiet nice day with dd is less trouble than that, but that's not really the debate. It's whether you can actually physically do it, and not just tomorrow, but the next day. There's no point jeopardizing your own recovery, how's that going to help your dd?

It's entirely up to you OP, neither would be unreasonable.

If you are too ill and the walk will be too taxing then do not feel bad for not sending her.
If you are able to get a taxi for drop off and pick up, I'd probably do that. It would leave 5.5 hours to relax at home, recovering and binge watching tv without needing to entertain and care for a young child.

I hope you recover soon