Inlaws are outlaws

[RunAwaySoul]

I am so fed up with my in-laws behaviour, interference, pushiness, name calling and lies that I can’t do much but post a passive aggressive thread. Please feel free to join in.

I agree with PP - why are you answering the door to them? I would just ignore XMIL if she turned up uninvited. I wouldn't answer the phone to her either - just the sound of her whiny voice was enough to have me reaching for the valium.

You can go NC if you want.

toads

Yup.

It's amazing how many horrible people manage to produce sons that women want to live with/marry...it really is.

Chinam & Toads 😂😂😂
Tinsel... They peep through the windows, letter box and our main door has got opaque glass top to bottom. I think I need to grow thick skin & learn to ignore. I hope after the confrontation yesterday they don’t come 🤞

Oh God yes I used to leave the TV on and just go about my business, I didn't give a shit if MIL could see me. She had not been invited so there was nothing for me to explain.

You need to toughen up OP

Gottage.... what can I say,these kind of people produce charming kids 😂🤣

My ILs used to send us unasked for Christmas wishlists and tell us how much we had to spend and what we had to buy them. The only person I want giving me any sort of wish list is baby ds!!

Sending my DS to violin lessons,meant I am preparing him to be a drug addict

WTF? How is that supposed to work?

Oh FIL used to give DH gifts back if there weren't off his wish list (even if only an extra to go with the item he 'wanted.'

Sure they didn't think you said 'Violence lessons'

My in laws live hundreds and hundreds of miles away. They are pretty much 100% disinterested in our lives. We're all polite and pleasant when we see each other, but we can go 6 months easily with zero contact.

Bliss.

My step-FIL is a paedophile (like an actual paedophile, who was convicted and went to prison for sexually assaulting a child). MIL facilitated his access to our children and hid this from us. She's said that if ever put in the situation where he harmed our dd (not going to happen because neither of them will ever see her again), she would still protect him over our dd. Because apparently its all a conspiracy and the government is out to get him. But anyway, they're "continuing to pray for us that we one day come to terms with it." Vile and delusional. I feel bad but I've truly said that my life would be so much better if she were dead. My dc have no idea and I've worked hard to protect them and not talk about the real reasons their grandmother just f-ed off out of their life one day, but I think if I ever saw her again, I would truly want to strangle her for what she's put them through.

*To be fair, my MIL is otherwise actually a really lovely person (who has unfortunately made some really bad life choices and chosen to be in a relationship with a man for whom she's pretty much thrown away the relationship she had with both her children and her grandchildren). It's extra sad to see how far things have fallen from the way they used to be. I used to be closer to my ILs than to my own family.

I'm sure some people have lovely inlaws that does not include me! List in endless but finally went nc with mil after she ignored the fact our baby ds was seriously ill in hospital no calls no visits (she lives 10mins from hosp) no offer of help with our dd. I literally had strangers offering help and saying prayers for my poor ds while she was out at a party not giving a shit. So after that I'm done completely disgusting human being all round - currently sleeping with a married man but it's ok because his wife doesn't understand him 🤔

My pils were decent working class people, who had ten kids. They were great parents and grandparents and I was lucky to have them. They're gone now and I really miss them. I wouldn't have survived the death of my dear husband without the support of my sils and bils.

My parents are abusive bastards and my siblings have followed their lead. I have had nothing to do with any of them for nearly 30 years. I guess my dear husband had the shitty inlaws. 🤔

I don't speak to sister in law, far too much negativity, trouble and bitterness from one person.

Everyone else is great and we have a good relationship.

The best thing we ever did was go nc.
It took DH years then one day he flipped and that was it for going on 5 years now.
He's like a very much happier version of himself.

Mind you if I told you some of the things she had done you would think I was a scriptwriter or a compulsive liar 😂

mindutopia your situation has been terrible. Makes me thinks most people issues are petty compared to that. I'm not surprised you're NC, the fact your MIL facilitated means she's as bad as him unfortunately.

Funny how everyone can relate to a nightmare MIL but not a nightmare DM. I don't get much sympathy for her mad shit.

At my graduation dinner she brought a gift. For my housemate. I ran outside crying. She stormed out after me in a rage screaming at me why couldn't I just be nice.

There is a whole lot more but that pretty much sums up her treatment of me throughout my life.

DH is estranged from his DM - she is unfortunately mentally ill but clever enough to lie in the assessments and has refused all help.

Currently they all live hundreds of miles away from us. Agree pp it is bliss.

RemainOptimistic I can relate to a nightmare DM as I have one of those as well. We've never been close and she likes to tell the whole family (most distant and practically strangers) all my business (all negative). We have had NC for afew months now and she's hardly seen her gc...

Here is a to all of us. Hoping that things will get better and all the evil ILs & parents will be sent to Azkabaan