To have asked her to move?

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Our elderly neighbour has had many falls over the past 18 months to which either me or my husband have administered first aid and called the ambulance for her. She's finally relented and is selling her house to go into a home after she had a serious fall at home and was left there for 2 days until I noticed and broke her door down.

She has no family, no children and her only contact here is a friend of hers of which I met the day I broke her door down. I don't care for her much as she was quite rude and abrupt with me that day for breaking our neighbours door.

Anyway, the house is now sold and for the past 2.5 weeks this friend has been coming to our neighbours house every other day to, I assume, sort through her belongings.

The AIBU but is, she parks across our drive. She is disabled so had a special car which is long and blocks our cars in. We've put up with it for the past 2.5 weeks. She will come anytime of day, sometime on the school run, and if I don't catch her before she's gone inside it can take her anywhere for up to half an hour to move the car and I've been late on many occasion because of this. When I return from somewhere I also have to get out of the car and ask her to move again. There is no where else for us to park on our road.

Today, she parked across our drive again and I went out and said I will be picking my son up from nursery in ten mins so could she please not park there. She went ballistic at me. Said she hopes I'm disabled when I'm older and that it's weeks out of my life why can't I just put up with it.

I've come back and I'm fuming at how she spoke to me. I feel like going round and saying something to her. AIBU?

Park over your drive way - as she said - you will only be doing it for a few weeks!

Her attitude stinks, I know and it’s illegal but it’s for a short time only and it sounds as though she is parking there for access. Being disabled is really shit

Her disability isnt the issue, shes blocking access to OPs drive whilst OPs car is in the drive.

This is so obvious it's probably useless, but can you suggest an alternative? Sometimes it's easier to say "Can you not park over my drive, but instead use that spot over there, which no-one needs during the day" because you're not just raising a problem then -you're also solving it. She sounds rude and unreasonable, though, and this is not your fault. Props for helping out your elderly neighbour, btw.

We need a diagram OP

"Failing that, smearing butter all over her windscreen will give her the message!"

You'd have to be a special sort of piece of shit to do that to a wheelchair user.

Her attitude isn't good, but some medications/pain etc can change your personality. Also she can see her friend deteriorating before her eyes.

I'd try to find a solution. It won't be for long.

She’s disgusting for hoping that you’d become disabled

Disabled or not, no excuse to be nasty towards others and generally unpleasant like she is. She obviously recognises the inconvenience due to her previously taking so long to move the car and her outburst over being asked to move it

Again park across your drive and let her park on the neighbour’s. I wouldn’t accommodate her until she apologised and sorted her attitude out.

Her attitude isn't good, but some medications/pain etc can change your personality.

I understand this is posted with the best of intentions, but I think it's abelist. People with disabilities are still people, and it's not OK for a disabled person to be given a free pass for behaving like a dick just because they are disabled, especially when any extenuating circumstances (medication) at at this point pure speculation.

Also she can see her friend deteriorating before her eyes.

In which case you'd have thought she'd be thankful, not rude, about the OP breaking down the door to save her neighbour's life.