bad breath!

[willothewisp17]

I am aware that this type of thread has been done a lot recently, but am starting to get annoyed.

Husband has hideously bad breath, I'll spare you the details of what I think it smells like. He knows this, I've made him aware (not nastily) and I've told him that bad breath is not just unpleasant, but could actually be due to health problems and he should really go to the dentist.

This has been going on for a long time now! He just huffs and puffs! Brushes his teeth once a day in morning before work and doesn't take longer than 30 seconds brushing them. Doesn't use mouthwash, despite mouthwash being there right next to the sink! Won't entertain chewing gum. Eats mints only when he feels like eating a mint. I feel like because he doesn't notice and it doesn't bother him then he thinks why should be bother.

Every other aspect of his hygiene is fine, shower every night, regular hand washing, clean clothes. It's just the breath.

And he wonders why I have zero sexual interest in him. I can't kiss him. I don't want to kiss him. Am I being unreasonable to feel that he is really bloody disrespectful because he won't sort the bad breath issue out oven even try!

My ex was like this, I tried gently to tell him but he wouldn't listen.

One night, in bed, I said "have you farted?", he said no, I said (accidentally because I generally tried not to mention it) "oh, it must be your breath then" and he did baulk at that and that I was saying his breath smelt like farts (it did). But he still never did anything about it.

I couldn't kiss him at all. He complained I always slept with my back to him. But it was so bad I could even smell it when his mouth wasn't open.
Not sure what you can do, if you think it's dental then maybe get a timer for the bathroom and tell him current advice is to brush for two full minutes twice a day.

I wasn't able to say anything, but last week I got my hubby (and the rest of us) to see a dentist - it was his first time in years and he was in such a bad mood when we came out that he wouldn't speak. When we met 20 years ago, my husband's teeth were one of the attractive things about him, shin and white and straight. Now. No. Awful. In fact I can't write about it here without feeling terrible. And the breath. Oh god.

If he has plaque then brushing alone won't solve anything. He needs a hygienist appointment and then he needs to follow a strict routine of brushing for two minutes twice a day, floss and mouthwash each time.

Bad breath is so grim and I would be embarrassed if my partner had to point it out to me because I hadn't noticed. Why on earth doesn't he brush his teeth for more than 30 seconds? That's just grim.