AIBU to not want to host Xmas this year?
My parents have been divorced for years now. Brother doesn’t come home for Xmas now, sister does and stays with my mum. Dad goes on holiday. For the past 7 years myself and dh have always hosted Xmas day and Boxing Day (pil plus my mum and sister on Boxing Day). We have 2 young dc, one of whom is undergoing assessment for ASD. We both have very stressful, demanding jobs and as my dh works in retail he works Boxing Day every year. I’m currently signed off work with stress.
Life is pretty tough at the moment. I know there are plenty of people who have it tougher, and in the grand scheme of things we are very lucky and fortunate BUT I’m feeling fairly unsupported by my mum, and always have done. I’d love her to say “come to me this year for Xmas” but I know she won’t. I’d love to say it’s just going to be myself, dh and dc for Xmas day this year but will then feel guilty that my dc miss out on a family Xmas. And to top it all off, she was invited the first year and then just assumed every year after that. She actually said “I assume myself, your brother and sister are coming to you again this year?” when I had a baby and a toddler!
I think I just feel irritated that she assumes we will host, we do all the shopping, prep, cooking, tidying up/dishes after while they just sit on their bums! Then repeat it all again on Boxing Day! We’re the ones with the young children, busy lives and stressful jobs! Just for once, I’d like someone to wait on me a little bit! AIBU? Pil are lovely but live 200 miles away. We used to visit them but they now come to us as that’s easier for us over having to do a long journey with the kids and plus dh works Boxing Day.