Work's Christmas Dinner

[Meowstro]

How late is too late for DH to stay out?

1. When "only having one" drink
2. Due to having a screaming baby at home

(Him: How is little one? Me: Still awake (screaming) Him: Oh no.)

Or am I just being resentful considering I felt guilty being out an hour and a half recently?

He should be able to go out occasionally without limits and without guilt. As should you.

If he's drinking, I wouldn't want him looking after the baby anyway, he might as well stay out and out of the way.

If he's not drinking, then he will be fine about getting up early with the baby while you have a lie in (or get up and go out early and go for a nice breakfast somewhere nice and take your time about it)

YANBU in being pissed off that he'd been out for so long when he made you feel guilty. Fuck letting him get away with that. What time did he get home in the end and what was his mood like?

To clarify, I'm not imposing curfews, nor did I say anything to him, just wondered if my feelings on it were U. Clearly they are and I'm fine with hearing that.

He came home at 12.30am, he was OK and sober, was tired and didn't want to chat at first. Didn't wake up when he said he would which completely messed up my morning but I didn't say anything.

He's trying his best I'm sure, I just resent having to ask him to do things he should do (nappy change, sterilise bottles, wash up, etc.) and not really getting down time without interruption like he does. Plus last time we had a family pub lunch he wanted to get drunk then expected me to drive home without discussing it. I'm sure it's communication issues but no matter how much I bang on about that fact it falls on deaf ears.

Your feelings aren't unreasonable. You need down time too. He needs to learn to deal with the baby so that you can have some respite. Arrange a night out with your friends and stay out until 12.30 (if you feel like it).

Please don't feel like your feelings are unreasonable because they aren't. Life is tough with a new baby and everyone needs time to unwind and be on their own. You both deserve that. Please make sure you get some time to do what you want.

YANBU