To use silent treatment

[BelleSauv]

Is it ever acceptable to use silent treatment? If I have explained calmly why something DH has done or said has upset me and he's dismissed it, is ignoring him acceptable or AIBU?

Genuinely interested, it feels juvenile but if explaining calmly doesn't work, what else can I do?

This sounds very similar to what I had with my partner recently. He could never admit when he was wrong, always twisted it round on me. 7 years of repeating and repeating the same thing to him...sometimes calmly, sometimes not so calmly. I also ignored him because I was just too angry to speak at times.

Anyway, last month I just had enough when he was standing in front of me denying something that was his fault and I just exploded in front of him. I told him I'd had enough of having to live with him never acknowledging my feelings...that nothing mattered to him as long as he was 'right'. He just couldn't accept that he had some faults, same as everyone does. I told him to get out, I was done

I told him I could live with his faults, they weren't the problem, it was him behaving as if he was faultless that I couldn't cope with. This was all said through angry tears and shouting screaming like a banshee He got the shock of his life, promised he would stop, asked me to tell him when he was doing it as he wasn't aware he was doing it. Anyway, low and behold, it's only bloody stopped, he's fallen into denial mode a few times but I call him out on it straight away and he listens and things are great now. Granted, it's only been a month but so far so good, in fact things are great now. It might not work for everyone but worth a try...go on OP get angry, make him listen to you.

I only give the silent treatment to stop me saying something I know I'll regret.

What has he said op?

The thing is there is two sides to every story. Well three really, yours his and the truth sigh.

Did he say these things to hurt you, or did he say them because they are true and needed saying and you’re hurt because he said it. Could it be what he said is true but you don’t like it?

I think it’s hard to comment because no one knows what he said or why he said it. Just you feel it’s untrue and it hurt, and he won’t back down, so feels it’s true.