So bit of background, in our family there are several siblings so it was decided that we only do presents for the nephews and nieces. Oldest Dbro has double the amount of children of everyone else, but this has never been an issue, I've always spent the same on each of his children as I do for everyone else. Dbro sent a round robin saying that things were tight this year for his family and that he wouldnt be buying any presents for any one this year. No problem with this, have been poverty stricken in the past so can understand that sometimes you hit hard times. We have already bought gifts for their children and I still intend on giving these. However, dbro has just posted on his fb something him and his dwife have just bought that is quite expensive. Its not an essential item but something quite frivolous and now my dh is pissed off at the principle of them not buying for our single child (even if it was a £1 selection box, just something for dd to open from them) whilst we have spent £20 on each of their 5 children (Prices are for context, and its never been an issue before that we spent more so please dont think this) Im struggling to disagree with dh. On the other hand its not in the spirit of xmas, giving to receive. Help me, i'm conflicted.