To ask if it’s strange to get engaged to someone you’ve known for 6 months?

[CitizinKant]

A friend of mine has got engaged 6 months after meeting her partner but I’m a little concerned by how rapidly things have moved. They’ve set a date for 8 months time. Do you think this is too quick or AIBU?

It all depends on the couple me and my DH got engaged within 6 months of meeting each other and we've been together for over 11 years,we're married and have 5DC and were as happy now as we were the day we got married

No. My parents have been married 35 years and they married within 6 months of their first date. DH & I were engaged in six months and married in less than a year, and that's 12 years ago now.

When you know, you know.

We got married 6 months after we met - got engaged after 2 weeks! Both mid 30's and 17 yrs later still blissfully together. I am very very lucky.

I was married less than 6 months after meeting DH. 15 years later still going strong.

It's a crapshoot, like anything else!

The only thing that concerns me about situations like that is that three months in, people are still experiencing the chemical high of new love, which causes a loss of perspective. Those neurochemicals die down by 18-24 months, and that is when folks are really able to take a clearer look at a partner's suitability.

DH was looking at rings 2mknths after we started dating. We’ve now been married 14years

My stepmum and dad married within a year of meeting each other. They've just celebrated their 40-somethingth anniversary.

I don't think it's strange. DH and I became engaged 7 months after our first meeting and married 3 months after that. We've been married 30 years.

Is there something about her behaviour or her fiancé that is causing you concern or is it strictly the 'timetable'?

Myself and my now dh had our first date on a Friday night and on our second date the next night he told me he would marry me the next day if he could 🤤 took a bit longer to convince me.
But six months later we got engaged and 6 months after that we married.
9 years married this year and 4 gorgeous kids later and we're still going strong.
We had some tough years both lost good jobs and struggled money wise and adjusting to being at home all the time. But this last year things have been on the up. He's back in a great job, I'm a sahm and we know who we can rely on. We're finally coming out the other side but we're still here and still together not perfect but happy

I think this is a situation when everyone needs to mind their own business and let these 2 adults do whatever they want to do.

DH and I got married a year and a day after we first met. Still early days but we've just celebrated our second wedding anniversary

Agree Aqua

OP - are you coming back?

My DH & I got married 4mths after we met ... there were a few rocky years when our kids were younger but we managed to get through them & we've been married 31 yrs now. The best people to comment on any marriage/relationship are the ones in it IMHO

It's their choice.
My dh and I first met in April 2014, became an 'official' couple on the 9th of May 2014. We decided so ttc on July 2014, we conceived in November 2014, we got engaged on January 13th 2015, and got married on the 9th April 2015 (we'd been together exactly 11 months the day we got married). Our baby was born early September.
People though we only got married because I was pregnant. This isn't true at all. We'd already discussed marriage and agreed we both wanted to. It was just never official. When we did get engaged, we both agreed we wanted to be married before the baby was born and before I was showing. We set the data the middle of February, and had 2 months to plan the wedding.
We are still happy after 2 and a half years of marriage, and we have a happy 2 year old that makes our family complete (for now..)

I don't know. I knew within about 8 weeks of being with DH that I was in love with him (and he with me). We didn't get engaged for about 4 or 5 years. And it then took us another 10 or so before we got married. We've now been together for 20 odd years.

So we could actually have got engaged/married in the first 6 months. We're just a bit slow at bothering get round to stuff I guess.

Well not married but my ex moved someone in he met once! So I guess if things had worked out they would have been married within 6 months. I found it weird personally but each to their own.

My parents got engaged after 6 months and married after another 6 months. Still together and happy nearly 50 years later.

@CitizinKant

Too soon IMO.

Marry in haste, repent at leisure.

I know there will be a bunch of people on here saying 'I met my husband and married him within 5 months of meeting and we are still together 20, 25, 35 years later' and so on and so on. But I would definitely be a bit if someone said they were getting engaged after only a few months of meeting, and married 6 months after they get engaged! What is the rush?

Getting engaged quickly, seems to be more common in young women who don't have much else going for them (very little education, very little career prospects, very few skills,) and they are often from 'lower working class' families. From what I have seen, it's largely this type who meet someone and get engaged very quickly.

The couple the OP knows have got engaged after 6 months together! So they met THIS YEAR... and they are already engaged, with the date to get married set for early summer next year?! That's fucked up.

I was married within 4 months. We just celebrated our 11th wedding anniversary with Carling and a Hellraiser marathon

We got engaged and found out I was pregnant within 4 months of meeting. Still together 18 years later, married 16 years. It worked for us.