In not wanting to speak to neighbours parents?

[crazycatgal]

I have neighbours who are around 20 years old with a child. Since they have lived here they have been problematic.

A year ago a neighbour reported them to the landlord for having constant loud drug fuelled parties until 7am. Since then parties have stopped but loud music, shouting and banging have carried on - often into the early hours.

We have tried to speak with them several times, get told sorry and they carry on again a week later. After a weekend of no sleep we and the other neighbours called the landlord who was apologetic and said that if they carried on then they would be evicted.

Now a note has been posted through our door from the parents of the female neighbour saying that they know that we reported their child and they want any further complaints to go to them.

Am I unreasonable in thinking that noise complaints have nothing to do with the parents of adult tenants? If myself and other neighbours feel the need to complain again then we are within our rights to ring the landlord and if the tenants don't want to be evicted then they should stop the noise.

YANBU ignore the parents and keep reporting, also doesn't sound like a great environment for a child!

Maybe, but are the parents on your side here? What was the tone of their letter? Could they be allies?

@Monkeypuzzle32 I know I feel sorry for the poor little thing, can hear constant crying from and they argue and fight while you can hear crying for mummy and daddy.

YANBU - maybe a 20 year old adult should deal with the consequences of their actions

Parents are probably worried they'll have to live with them if evicted.

I would contact them every time they are noisy & if it doesn't stop within an hour or so, contact the landlord

@MoreCheerfulMonica The parents said that their daughter was out of order and they will sort her out, but I can't help but thinking that they want us to ring them instead of the landlord so there aren't actual consequences.

Hi,
I feel for you as that's a terrible situation,loud music all night!
You are within your rights to contact not just your landlord but the environmental health department of your local council.
If you and your neighbours complain to them they will act,probably by asking you to complete a noise diary.
What it has to do with the neighbours parent I don't know.I'd ignore the letter ,it might just lead to further complications,and continue with the formal route.
I hope the noise ends soon.Good Luck 🌻🌻

Ignore the note and keep complaining to the landlord. Complaining to their parents is not going to achieve anything if the landlord can't make them stop.

Doesn’t matter if they are 20 or 50, house is in their name and they’re responsible.
Not your concern. Hope for your sake they get booted out soon , it’s horrible having nightmare neighbours

The parents may be guarantors and are getting a bit worried. Stick to your guns and report in the usual way.

YANBU. Clearly the parent are bonkers too. Don't engage with them.

It's not as if we've gone to the landlord straight away either, we've tried talking to them several times in the past few months and it goes in one ear and out of the other. I don't know why they expected us to do nothing and put up with the noise. Ourselves and the other neighbours have to get up early for work and can't put up with constant noise.

Keep reporting them to the LL but also given that there is a small child living there too I’d be social services aren’t aware of them too.

I’m more worried about the child in this who is being exposed to a lot of domestic conflict from what you have said. That is emotional abuse and potentially physical abuse. I would be calling the police next time you hear this, and express concern about the child’s safety. Whether you speak to the grandparents is another matter, I might do this to explain that you are willing to let them know if there has been an incident that you feel the landlord should know about. However, their daughter needs to change her behaviour.

I think I'd report via the usual channels (including SS if drugs are being abused in the presence of a child) but I'd also let the parents know. They may prove helpful.

That poor child. Some people really are scummy.

@Caroelle One of the more recent examples is the two of them shouting and screaming until 4.30am saying stuff like 'get the fuck out of the house you bastard I hate you' and you could hear banging like there was stuff being thrown or a fight. I heard the child crying at 8am so I think that the child must have been inside the house during all of this.

I feel sorry for the parents who might be trying their best for their offsprings.

I would still complain directly to the landlord. If you are old enough to live on your own (and have a child, poor thing), you are old enough to take responsibility.

We had the same with our neighbours except that they were mid 20s and it was the child's father who lived there and they didn't have the child apart from weekends.

They have moved out thank god!

constant loud drug fuelled parties

This is the Daily Mail, right? No-one in real life uses the expression 'drug fuelled' do they? WTF does it even mean?

Do not communicate in any way with the Parents .... only the Landlord

@Haffiana If that's all you're going to pick up from my post then go and be pedantic somewhere else.

Poor wee child. Please call the police and express your concern that there is a child involved in a domestic incident next time they're up and screaming at night.

It isn't a question of being pedantic, it is a question of being over dramatic. Too much drama.

I might do both. Tell the landlord and also the parents. The parents might be preparing to step in but need more knowledge about what is going on to take that step.

@Haffiana Come back and describe my working as dramatic once you've experienced what I have. Until then go away if you have nothing to add.

*wording