What would you have done.. sleep over and stolen money

[Thesmallthings]

Last sat I held a joint birthday for my two sons. Intook ds and 6 other children to lazer tag and bowling. Came hime and had a sleep over with all off them.

Ds1 had been given a 10 pound note from two if the children (brothers) he put it with some dollers he had by his tv before we left for lazer tag. That is the last time I or he saw it.
Ds1 friends had the living room and ds2 friends had the bedroom.

The next morning after the sleep over I notified the money was gone. I asked if any one had seen it they all said no.

I messaged my friend who's son was here and told her cis were very close she said I should go through their bags. I only went through one and that was because I was helping him pack his stuff up.
I have my suspions on two but didn't want to ruin the party for my ds or the others by making a big thing out of it or accusing children when I have no real proof. Plus two of the children, one being one that insuspect was/is going through a very bad time at home so didn't want to upset accuse him.
I will replace the money for ds but I could do with out and I'm annoyed and hurt that after taking them out for lazer tag bowling and food and then to get take out and have a big sleep over one of them would do this.

Should I have checked their bags. Ds don't have many friends so indont Want to ban them from the house. Do I tell the parents?

What ages are the children?

Gut feeling is that I wouldn't mention it; you can't make accusations based on suspicion whatever age.

I think you chalk it up to experience and get your child a piggybank or savings account.

I'd message all the parents and tell them what's happened, to be honest.

I'd want to know if my child might be a thief.

They range from 9 to 12.
He has a piggy bank but just chucked it by The telly because we was in a rush to go out and Tbh didn't really expect to be stolen from.

I am glad i didn't say anything other then asking had they seen it.

I was furious when some jewelry went missing but it was found some months later when a heavy wall unit was pulled out for decorating.

You cant accuse without proof. Many things may have happened to it - picked up with some discarded rubbish, could it have been knocked down, on the floor under the TV stand?

Should I have checked their bags. And if you didnt find it? What next? Frisking? Out turning pockets? body searches? FYI, only the Police under the Police And Criminal Evidence Act have the right to conduct a bag/body search without consent. You start playing silly buggers and you'll soon find out who the mother is who would actually report you for doing so.

It happened to us too, DS 'lost' 100 euros from a birthday card his sister gave him, it was in his bedroom beside the bed, the card was here, no cat, he was desolate. And shocked to consider one of his friends may have taken it.

A camera also disappeared from my desk, they shouldn't have been in my office, money also went from a £ jar too.

Neither items were ever found, and nothing we could do.

We have 'lost' items via cleaners too, one I commented to that I need her full details as I had to report the loss of some jewellery to the insurance company and they wanted to know who was on the premises. Funny how it turned up the following week, she said she 'found' it under DD's bed.

I have learned the hard way not to leave valuable out on display, but I have always trusted everyone in my home.

Deff not fallen down have checked under the telly and back and under. It was folded in with dollers he got from grand parent.so I can't see how it could have moved with out missing the dollers to.

I'll chalk it up to experience and not leave anything in sight again. Just gutted for ds that they now know one or more have stolen from them and don't know who to trust now.