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meanapparently · 29/11/2017 09:22

Been living fairly happily in a Victorian mid terrace for the last 20 months. Neighbours on both sides. Neighbour 1 is a lady I think a few years younger than me and her 2 daughters. Neighbour 2 is a family, two young kids, a teenager, a baby and 2 large dogs. All houses are 2 bedroom.

Neighbour 2 has always been an issue. She screams at her dc all the time, she fights with her oh, lots of screaming and swearing and while the dc are there. The main issue is one of the dogs. One is OK, the other barks constantly when she goes out, I guess he has anxiety but it's soul destroying to listen to.

A few weeks back, the dog had been barking for 4 straight hours, and I had a poorly ss4 who was trying to sleep and couldn't. It was about 10pm. I cracked. I found neighbour 2 on Facebook and messaged her, politely, saying that her dog had been barking for hours and I was trying to get a sick child to sleep. She was immediately defensive, wouldn't believe that it was her dog I could hear, but after another half hour she came back, dog stopped, and I thought that was it.

Then I noticed that the conversation we'd had now said 'Facebook user' basically she'd blocked me. Then yesterday the postman tried to deliver a package to me, I was out so they tried neighbour 2 who refused to accept it, then neighbour 1 who also refused to accept it, turns out neighbour 1 and 2 are good friends so have decided to hate me together it seems.

I don't feel comfortable at home anymore. I have anxiety, and tinnitus, otherwise I would have used earplugs. Can't afford to move. How should I handle this?

OP posts:
toolonglurking · 29/11/2017 09:36

Go and speak to her. Messaging through facebook was never going to go down well. I realise you needed to stay at home with your sick DS, but if you have a face to face conversation with her, and very calmly and politely explain the ongoing issue she'll probably be a bit more reasonable.
As far as she knows her dog barked on one occasion and her neighbour got pissed off about it, she needs context.

meanapparently · 29/11/2017 11:55

Thank you for the advice.. I worry that she won't be receptive. She seems to thrive on confrontation and I'm the polar opposite, I loathe it. Guess I need to get some big girl pants on.

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Pengggwn · 29/11/2017 11:57

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ThisLittleKitty · 29/11/2017 12:00

I know you snapped but messaging her on Facebook was never going to go down well was it.

meanapparently · 29/11/2017 12:29

I know. It was just the only way I could get in touch with her. It had been 4 hours.

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upperlimit · 29/11/2017 12:33

I would forge on like nothing has happened, take packages for them to encourage reciprocation and put Xmas cards out early. Most people don't have the sticking power for a proper grudge.

TheHeartOfTeFiti · 29/11/2017 13:42

Yep do nothing be nice Christmas cards and a wee bag of home made sweets.

Allthetuppences · 29/11/2017 13:47

Just be normal with them. Act as though you haven't even noticed.

meanapparently · 29/11/2017 17:53

OK. Yep I'll ignore and then drop some sweets for the kids over nearer Christmas.

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MyKingdomForBrie · 29/11/2017 17:59

What the hell was wrong with messaging on Facebook? What was OP meant to do, leave her child home alone to go over?

OP you have done nothing wrong but I totally understand your feelings, I would be the same.

ThisLittleKitty · 29/11/2017 18:08

Well it's abit ott isn't it. She could have waited till the next day and went round.

ferrier · 29/11/2017 18:13

Going round the next day wouldn't stop the dog.

ThisLittleKitty · 29/11/2017 18:19

It's a dog barking yes annoying but not an emergency. She should have spoken to her face to face and explained how annoying the dog has been not go seeking her out on Facebook no the wonder she's blocked her!

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