To think calling someone ‘a big person’ is rude?

[HuskyMcClusky]

An acquaintance mentioned she hadn’t seen me around recently, and I said I’d been out of action with a broken ankle. She replied, ‘Well, you have got very small ankles for a big person’.

I’m not fuming or devastated, or anything , but I did think it was a bit taken aback. As it happens, I have got very slim ankles and am 5’11”, but I’m also a size 10-12.

AIBU to think that ‘big’ is not very flattering and a bit rude, in a way that ‘tall’ isn’t? Particularly interested to hear what other tall women think.

In my first job there was another lady with the same name as me and I was really embarrassed because I was called little Sarah (not my real name) and she was called big Sarah. I was 17 and tiny and she was about 48 and about 6 inches taller than me but I used to think it was really embarrassing for her, and rather mean of my colleagues, who were all about the same age as she was.

I'm 6' and a size 10-12. I don't consider myself 'big'. I've often felt quite self conscious about my height so even if she meant tall I'd be miffed. The fact she made the comment in regards to ankle size would make me think she meant overweight though. Why would being tall give you big ankles?

But you are normal sized though...

I'm 6ft tall, size 14-16 and I have been called Big / Massive..I might need to lose a few pounds but I do find it offensive.
If you mean Tall, say it.
Honestly, being a tall woman seems to attract strange comments from both men and women!

I’m 6ft 1 and hate being called big. Tall not a problem but big just makes me feel unfeminine and unlady like. I do realise that most people don’t mean it as an insult but it’s right up there with large, after all as a general rule you wouldn’t address another person as “oh aren’t you large” or “you're large aren’t you ?” as it’s impolite.

i can see it from both sides. its not up to her to choose words that you wont find offensive. she is just one person, why would you let it bother you? a guy i know once said to me “wow your hair has gotten so long, its like hagrids!” ...but i love my hair, so who cares how he described it.

but on the other hand im a tactful and nice person so i wouldnt use a word that would hurt someones feelings because its quite cruel. so i can understand the annoyance of her choosing to describe you like that

Definitely think it's a poor choice of words and is offensive. I'm pretty fat atm but before kids were born I was slim and am 5ft. A colleague slightly senior to me in my first professional role used to always refer to me as 'little finding' i hated it- found it so so demeaning.

I had this a few days ago. I was talking about how my ds is quite big for his age (not in a fat way but in a healthy baby way) and my friend said 'well it's not surprising as you and dh are both quite big and tall, oh I mean big boned!' 🤔. I was really upset as I'm 5'9" and size 12. I think I'm pretty average and worked really hard to lose my baby weight.....but apparently I haven't 😢

My DS is very tall for his age - the other day someone commented that he was 'Huge' and I replied "he's very tall". He is actually skinny as a rake and 14.

Generally people don't think.
Grumble ignore the comment , like I say people are thoughtless!