DP pissing me off

[firsttimemum97]

AIBU to be angry at DP for still drinking excessively, smoking weed and playing Xbox all day? I stayed with him for the benefit of the doubt because I was expecting his child who is now a week old. I can't help but feel he's not trying to be a better person or even be safe for our little boy. He will smoke out the back but will come in and be breathing on our DS and touching him with his smokey fingers 😡 after drinking he gets pissed off at me for not wanting him to be holding our baby because he's drunk yet I am in the wrong for this too? His week of paternity leave has been spent on his Xbox. He's been helpful by running me baths and I think he's changed 4 nappies... to his family he is playing father of the year when he hasn't bothered with our son at all. I am so agitated but I'm not sure whether it's just my hormones or whether he is a cock or not. 😡 what would you do?

I'd be pissed off too, but some of that may be because he's not sure what to do and how he can help more. Take a look at something like this:

www.webmd.com/parenting/baby/features/new-dads-what-to-expect#2

and have a serious talk with him. Give him a list of things to do. Men are not intuitive. They need specific clarity and things spelled out in detail.

And the drinking and weed have to be cut way, way back. You need the money he's pissing away and he should be too busy helping you for much of that anyway.

What would I do? Tell him if he doesn’t sort his sorry arse out quick he’s gone.

He's a cock and I'd go it alone. You have two babies here

Made a relationship last for two years with a

Made a rship last with a similar for two years before I got sick of it, but he was emotionally abusive too. Invite his family over regularly- he’ll be a dream dad when they’re there. Give him an ultimatum sooner rather than later too. Big hugs to you x