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TowerRavenSeven · 27/11/2017 21:18

I have a aquaintance friend that has been divorced twice and has one teenaged child with one of the ex's. She has been in a long term relationship with a decent guy for the past 10 years, and her, her teenager and her boyfriend have been living together for 9 of the 10 years.

Her boyfriend very much wants to marry her, she wears an engagement and wedding ring and calls him her husband but they are not married. She also wants to marry him but refuses until her teenager graduates from university (7 years) because she gets what she calls 'the single mom's discount'. She goes on and on about things she gets discounted as a 'single mom'

Her teenager goes to a private school (we are in the states) and their tuition is only half of what we pay (I've been married 17 years and also have one child) because she is a 'single mom'. Between them they bring in over 250K.

This just ticks me off. My husband and I do well but it irks mr that our taxes are being used by her being a single mom. I have no problem if she wasn't co habbing and calling her boyfriend husband! I don't know exactly how they handle finances but her SO is very generous, they live a comfortable lifestyle, and she contributes to the maintenance of his house. They are definitely getting married, but it won't be until her child is an adult and living on his own so that she can use him for 'discounts'
Just doesn't this seem wrong or am IBU?

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ZigZagIntoTheBlue · 27/11/2017 21:28

None of your business really. If you're that over invested and want friendship to end you could query with school what constitutes 'single mum' as they may have guidelines for long term co habiting and shared finances but if she finds out you shopped her it will be the end of your friendship.

starzig · 27/11/2017 21:39

I think there should be no difference if you are married or not. If you are in a long term live together situation, both incomes should count.

TroelsLovesSquinkies · 27/11/2017 22:22

I think when she does the FAFSA that it's household income unless she's going to lie on it.

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