To want to date

[purpleandyellowcrocus]

I really want to have an active social life and meet lots of different men and have a sex life!

Is everyone doing tinder and stuff now?

If you basically want to meet men for sex then tinder is the one for you, however, if you want genuine relationships then it's like finding a needle in a haystack. For every one guy looking for a relationship there's 20 who just want no strings sex. For that reason, a lot of my friends have left tinder.

I doubt I’d have much luck with tinder ... not sure what I want though really.

One of my friends uses Bumble, where women have to make the first approach.

I doubt I’d have much luck with tinder

What makes you say that?

Isn’t it filled with really gorgeous youngsters?

Why wouldn't you just go down the pub and see who catches your eye if you just want a bit of fun and a shag?

God I wouldn’t know where to start ... honestly. Never really ‘pulled’ in the conventional sense.

Just take a friend down a busy pub and have a few drinks.

Its more fun than Tinder.

If you basically want to meet men for sex then tinder is the one for you, however, if you want genuine relationships then it's like finding a needle in a haystack

Really? I'm a man, I've been single for years and had only been looking for a relationship. Now after so long, I'd be quite happy to, in the (almost) words of the OP, meet lots of women and have a sex life. But I've never even had one date off Tinder, let alone anything more!

Admittedly I’ve been with dh for years so no personal experience of this, but I’ve a few friends that do the online thing and they seem to enjoy it.

I don’t think “pulling” in a pub is as easy a some make out tbh.

If you want sex Why not join tinder? Put your best picture up and if you don’t like it you can soon delete your account

If it’s more of a realtionship your after what about something like match.com? Becuase you have to pay for it my friends find you get more people looking for relationships on it.

My mate would probably pull someone

Anyway it’s not really my scene, I don’t come across very well!

Tinder is vulgar

I'm not sure that people who say Tinder is for casual sex only have ever used it. Sure there are men looking for that but they are easy to weed out For a start, don't swipe 'yes' to any men with topless photos, gym selfies or pictures of cars/motorbikes and you're off to a good start! If heavy drinking and smoking aren't your thing you can probably tell by their photos if they are and just swipe 'no'.

The great thing about tinder is that you must have both indicated you are physically attracted to each other before a conversation can be opened up. You'll be able to tell quite quickly if someone is articulate, respectful and keen to impress and it's easy to just politely say no thanks or block them if they are not what you're looking for.

I used tinder for around a year and had lots of nice dates with men who were lovely. Never had a bad experience but didn't meet 'the one' that way. I know plenty of people who have though.