Have read whole thread and tend to agree with both sides BUT isn't it funny how we all stopped being little wotsits when we were young, because our mums only had to look at us. I got smacked and I'm a sane whole person. My mum threatened to wash my mouth out with soap, I only swore once and I think that was "damn"! Did anyone see the article about 5 year olds being excluded, wonder why? Kids today have too much freedom, too many choices and parents who give in too much "in case they're not nice and traumatise their child". I'm not sayping anyone here is wrong in the way they bring their child up, each to their own, BUT today's kids are much worse behaved than 20 or even 10 years ago. My kids say things to me and I am shocked sometimes. I tell them it's not acceptable and I would never have spoken to my mum like that, because I respected her and she was my mum. She's dead now and I would give the world to take back any mean, hurtful things I said as a teenager. Different children need different disciplines and I don't think mustard etc is necessary, effective maybe? BUT it's not child abuse, ask any child that has been abused and see the difference. Yes, if it's a regular occurence, done as a cruel thing not a one off, that's different thing but get a perspective and listen to people that have been really, really abused. Ask the Mn on here who have told their terrible stories and think before judging others. One day you might have the child from hell, there are some you know, and then watch your "books" etc go out the window. If you have children all day, every day it's very hard work, having a Nanny makes life sooo much easier in terms of disciplne because you're not with them all the time and you don't always get to breaking point.