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Should I say something to colleague about dent in my car

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CheeseFiend36 · 26/11/2017 12:12

I went to meeting with a colleague last week, I have worked with her for coming up to 8 years and get on so well with her (meet up sometimes outside of work although we live opposite ends of the region to each other so not very often). We work together in the office on many projects.

As we were leaving and we said our byes to each other, I was in my car about to switch my engine on when I heard a bang on my passenger door behind me; it was extremely windy that day and when my colleague was opening her car door it flew open and hit my passenger door.
I looked out the window and my colleague had got into her car and mouthed sorry to me, smiled and started her car. I didn’t get out to inspect it as I thought it’d be fine if she had got into her car, so thinking nothing of it I drove home.

A few days later DH noticed that on the passenger door there was a deep-ish dent (about 1.5cm in length) with some blue paint - my car is white and hers was blue - so I know it’s from that.
DH has spoken to a friend who thinks it will cost at least £50 to repair, we are hoping to part exchange the car soon and so DH has asked me to notify the colleague to expect a bill. I’m not great with confrontation, I’d prefer to take the hit for it as I have to work with this woman and think it might make things awkward and I’m not even sure how to say it as really I should’ve got out of the car on the day to check it. I also know that she’s been through a divorce in the last 2 years and isn’t in the greatest financial position at the moment.

Should I say something, and how would you word it? Thanks!

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Worriedobsessive · 26/11/2017 12:13

I’d suck that one up.

MyBrilliantDisguise · 26/11/2017 12:13

I wouldn't. Not if it was going to make her struggle financially.

Dreams16 · 26/11/2017 12:16

I would leave it as annoying as it is it can happen anywhere you could park the car in a supermarket car park and someone crash in to it and drive off leaving you with the bill that's happened to me twice had separate cars I've owned have some twat go in to them and drive off and I've had to foot the bill

Maybe in future try and avoid parking near her if you know for sure it's her that's caused the dent

Cakesprinkles · 26/11/2017 12:16

For the sake of £50 and your working relationship I would suck it up.

KittyVonCatsington · 26/11/2017 12:18

Actually? I would ask the colleague to at least contribute what she can afford. She did cause the damage after all and admitted to it. It doesn’t take a genius to know that on a windy day, you keep hold of the car door as you open it and get in.
Even if she can’t afford £50, she should at least know that she has caused you to be £50 out of pocket.
Even if she paid you £1 per week for 50 weeks, I think she should do the honourable thing.

Cakesprinkles · 26/11/2017 12:21

If it was dark she may not have noticed the damage at the time

cushioncovers · 26/11/2017 12:25

It was an accident, she apologised. I would mention it to her if it were me but not ask for any money. It would irritate me not to politely mention it but as it was a genuine accident I wouldn't make it awkward at work by insisting she pay.

munkynutts · 26/11/2017 12:27

Nah. Its just a car.

RandomMess · 26/11/2017 15:16

Not for £50 she wasn't careless just unlucky!

Council · 26/11/2017 15:24

No, I'd just put that down as one of the perils of owning a car.

NoSquirrels · 26/11/2017 15:30

For £50 I'd just pay it myself. Depends if you can afford to do that, if your DP thinks you (as a couple) should be billing her?

babyturtles · 26/11/2017 15:31

I'd pay it myself. Does DH always tell you what to do?

OverlyYappy · 26/11/2017 15:38

I would get it fixed myself.

stella23 · 26/11/2017 16:39

Thing is whilst it probably was her, you didn't get out and look at he time, so could have been anyone

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