To tell DH he needs to save some holiday?

[Pandrawerschangedmylife]

I'm currently on mat leave, due to go back in January. DS will be starting nursery 4 days a week.

I've used most of my holiday to extend my mat leave but have kept a few days back in anticipation of the usual colds, sickness bugs and general illness that he'll more than likely pick up in those first few months.

DH has planned (or was planning) to take a week off in December for no reason other than its quiet at work and he has holiday to use. I've asked him to save this for January so that I'm not dealing with all the possible sickness myself. He thinks IABU as he wants a rest.

Who is being unreasonable??

He is. Timing his holiday for when his family is away? He sounds like an arse.

I think it depends on what kind of support he gives you. Does he help with the baby, up during the night, fair share of the housework, cooking, ect? Does he help at the weekend to give you a break, or do you do all of cleaning, cooking, childcare, etc? If he does all that, then he might need a break

Ok....
First of all a father does NOT help with a baby, housework etc... a father does his share of parenting and housework etc... because that’s what normal adults do. They do not help!!

As for needing a break.... does the OP, the mother, gets a break to do all those things even though she will back at work full time? What the heck, of course she won’t. Nope she will save all those days for The Times when the baby is ill... And because she will have those spare days, then of course, she will be the one to have all those days spare, she will be th wine to take some time off. She will be the one who will see her career suffer. And the one to make all the forts as well as having all those ackward conversations wth her boss about needing a day hol at the last minute.....

So nope sorry. He doesn’t need a break anymore than any other mother.
And he should be prepared to have some days off to look after his win child when they are ill. Just like the OP.