Cologne around baby

[wun3siian]

Ok so..My ex always wears a heap of cologne when he comes over to visit our baby who has eczema so I don’t use soap or anything that has perfumes on him etc, it’s so strong I have to wash baby and everything once he leaves to rid the smell, I noticed after a while baby kept getting rashes and runny nose and constantly sneeze when he was around or just after he’d visit , I also suffer from hypersensitivity too and I can’t even breathe through my nose around him it’s that painful. so I finally gathered the strength and got past my anxiety and asked him politely if he could not wear cologne when he comes to visit (he is an explosive person so it’s hard to talk to him without him going off) Anyway his answer was that he’s going to take me to court for custody because he took it as me saying he couldn’t see baby if he wears perfume so refused and turned it all around on me so yeah he still comes over with cologne on, am I being unreasonable and dramatic for asking him not to wear it when he comes over to my house?

Of course you aren't. Does he really not care that he's making his child ill? What a knob-end. Can you get a note from your doctor or something like that to support what you're saying?

Don’t let him in the house! He’s an areshole

Yanbu! He is a jerk. When ds was born, dp and I never wore perfumes/cologne for the same reason. Ds had bad eczema too, which in the beginning seemed to flare up after having cuddles with anyone who had scent on their clothes. We eventually just prewarned close relatives or offered a towel/blanket to put over them if they wanted a cuddle and had scent on their clothes. None of them had a problem with it and completely understood. You ex partner is essentially causing discomfort to his child. He's an arse.

I can’t get through to him without him shifting blame on me, his cologne is too much for me let alone a tiny baby and he makes me feel and look bad just for bringing it up, it’s like his ego just took a huge hit and he makes out like I’m this huge bitch when I know that I’m truly not, I’ve given him more than he deserves despite the fact he wanted an abortion he makes out like he’s this perfect person and father of the year to his family and co workers, when I know what he’s really like, how can I reason with a narcissistic sociopath?