Separate beds!

[tootfox]

Hello,
Don't know if this is the right place,

Does anyone sleep in the spare room? I did last night and got the best sleep for weeks!

We've both been unwell with colds lately, I work shifts so sometimes up at 4, which then wakes him up, or if I'm on a late shift he wake me up at 7, when I need to sleep in late,

I just had enough last night as he was already snoring! and went in the spare bed and we both slept!! Only been married a year! Don't won't this to be a regular thing, but is it okay for a few nights? I'm also pregnant and just need sleeeeeeep! Xxx

I'm 40+5 and DH and I both have heavy colds.
He's spent a couple of nights in the spare room this week as when the baby does arrive I'd like him not to be totally shattered because of my tossing, turning and snoring.

He's come in first thing in the morning for an hour of cuddles so I don't think we're doing too badly, despite the separate beds.

We just had a thread very similar, and there was a very high amount of people who do this!

We do it all the time; when one is unwell, when one of us has to get up early or when we just fancy it. Really doesn't effect the relationship at all.

I do it all the time as he fidgets all night and snores and I absolutely love my sleep and can't function without it. I probably do this abiut 3 nights a week!

We do and have done for almost 4 years, we still have an active sex life (which is the first question we always get asked when people find out)

DP snores and comes to bed much later than me, I'm a light sleeper and have to be up at 5am, it works for us

I couldn't do it. I love the warmth and intimacy of sleeping with dp. I know a lot of people do though.

Every night at 3:29am DC3 wakes up looking for me. I go into his bed (flannel sheets, so always warm and soft), best room in the house- tiny but sooo peaceful. It's inexplicable the vibe in that room. It's just so safe and small and snug. DC3 is the most snugly kid and he doesn't fidget in the least, so I actually sleep very well.

DH is a night owl. The other night, I was shaken out of my sleep by him packing a box up to ship the next morning. He's that guy. You could be sound asleep and he'll just potter about at the foot of the bed. He's inconsiderate because he lacks something in that area... not sure what it is. That's for another thread.

But yeah, separate beds. Ten years ago, I'd have been like, 'No. never.'
But having a family/pregnancy is the stuff of soul destroying exhaustion. You've gotta sleep! It doesn't matter where. Just sleep!

Nothing wrong with that!! We often do this as good quality sleep is so important. Once baby arrives you will need to do this more often anyway so you can function and you both get a chance for some sleep. Don't see what the problem is - as long as you still make time to be together and cuddle etc. We start the night in the same bed then one will go to the spare room before sleep xxx

DH is a night owl. The other night, I was shaken out of my sleep by him packing a box up to ship the next morning. He's that guy. You could be sound asleep and he'll just potter about at the foot of the bed. He's inconsiderate because he lacks something in that area... not sure what it is. That's for another thread

If mine tried that he'd be lacking his testicles.

I had to kick my dh out last night to the sofa bed. I’m 17wks pregnant and a light sleeper at the best of times and he is a terrible snorer and currently has a head cold so was extra loud last night so kept waking me up every 10mins from 11-2.30am so he had to go. As bad luck would have it ds woke up after a nightmare and came to
Sleep with me exactly 5mins later so I was kicked and poked for the rest of the night instead. I’m exhausted today.

We sleep in separate beds. When you think that half a king size bed is only 2ft 6 wide then you actually have less space than a standard single bed (3ft).

Thanks for your reply's!

I'm up early 2moro so I'm going to sleep in the spare room again tonight! (Actually looking forward to bed time!)

Thank you xx

Married a long time, have separate rooms!
Usually use them when ill pregnant, needing a decent sleep, one of us is up early or late. Regardless of where we sleep, we cuddle in bed before sleep and in the morning.
Sleep is No.1 priority in our house.

I am desperate for the luxury of a spare room so we can sleep separately!! I absolutely would if I could at least a few times a week if not every night

DH snores loudly plus he's a bad sleeper so he can, and does regularly keep me awake all night.

I think it's really detrimental to a relationship if you are constantly tired and resentful of your partner affecting your sleep so I say go for it OP! Particularly important if you are pregnant to get a good night too.

I always slept with my exH and the one night I didn't he didn't sleep.

But we didn't have dc and we more or less had to be up at similar times.

You do what works for you.

Separate rooms here. DH snores and refuses to do anything about it. I'm a light sleeper (sometimes insomniac) - early to bed, early to rise. DH is opposite. I also sleep like a starfish and fidget. I'm also heavily pregnant. neither of us are good bed fellows

DH stays in my bed and we talk, have sex etc then he goes to his bed when I fall asleep.

Works very well. We resisted for years thinking it would kill the marriage dead but actually, as we both get a good amount of sleep, I'm less ratty and we don't do the competitive tiredness thing.

Separate beds are a delight. Nothing like sleeping spread eagle!