Poor DH being treated unfairly at work

[Heckneck]

So my husband has bad anxiety. He came home today very stressed and said one of the "influential" employees kept ignoring him when he was trying to ask him a work related question. Completely blanked him. This person has been with the company from the beginning. Has spoken to DH before as they do have to work together. DH says nothings gone off but he does t understand why he's been blanked today. I've advised him to complain about him to his manager cos surely that's just not on?

I would personally wait and see if the behaviour occurred again- complaining because a colleague didn’t answer your (reasonable) questions for only one day, could inflame the situation, or cause o e where it may not yet exist. If this happens a few days in a row, and this is someone he has worked with for a while, as hard as it would be, I would initially try to speak to them directly about what has changed. No joy then, I’d definitely take it further. I hope tomorrow goes better for him

Surely a complaint to the manager is a bit premature? They could have something on their mind that was badly distracting them.

It sounds like a very minor incident unless there's any more to it. The colleague may have just been busy or stressed themselves. It's not great behaviour of course but not quite poor DH being unfairly treated or worthy of a complaint. If it keeps happening or becomes part of something bigger then say something but for now write it off as a bad day if at all possible and try not to dwell on it. Hard with anxiety I understand but got to differentiate what is his anxiety and what is a real issue that's worth taking action over.

Thanks. I find it hard when he comes home so anxious and I don't always know how to deal with it. Living with his anxiety seems to cloud my rational judgements. So thankyou x

Maybe his anxiety has blown it out of proportion. Someone I worked with once accused me or the same because I did not acknowledge her on the way to the photocopier, because I was stressed under pressure and did not see her

More than likely the case