To wonder how much abuse you get as a solicitor

[divorcenightmare]

Am getting divorced.

STBX thinks my solicitor is a lying "dog" or "silly cow". He has sent to her at least one email telling her this (but not in those terms - more politely).

Anyway she says she is used to this kind of rudeness.

Still - with each case that a family solicitor takes on comes the potential for abuse.

Doesn't it get tedious / tiring / depressing?

My ex's solicitor has issued me with a few demands here and there - pretty unreasonable ones too, so I've told him in no uncertain terms what I've thought about that. However I understand that he may well be being directed to act somewhat unreasonably against his own better judgement and against the advice he's given to my ex. Which is likely, knowing my ex lol. So I'm never personal or abusive, though I do get angry at the contents of the emails I receive from time to time.

But yeah, must be difficult when dealing with horrible, unreasonable people like my ex.

It's usually more a case of boneheaded clients thinking that because they can read they know better what should go in their witness statements etc. If you manage your clients well then it's not common for them to berate you.

It is more the abuse they get from the "other side" rather than their own clients I was thinking of.

I love my solicitor. She is like a beacon of calm, and she is on my side. STBX reckons she is using me for money and does not care. But then he would say stuff like that.

I was a divorce lawyer for 25 looooong years and did occasionally my clients would tell me their ex husbands called me a bitch. Just shrugged it off, it’s the nature of litigious family work.