im meeting up with my ex tomorrow night ... AIBU to ask for some advice?!

[kateposh]

Meeting up with ex tomorrow night. Been separated 6 weeks. Still very much missing him/i'm in love with him.

Ended because of circumstances that were pretty bad - depression, drink, etc.

Saw him Sunday - friends said we were acting like a couple, to get a grip and get back together. AIBU to think you don't go to dinner with your ex unless you want them back?

...or if you want to keep them dangling on the back burner.

What do you want to happen?

How has the bad situation changed?

Maybe they just want a date and sex rather than been back together.

Who was depressed/drinking, you or him?

I have just split up with someone who is devastated. If we were to go out to dinner, it would be because I would be trying to cheer him up, maybe talk things through if he wanted to. Basically I feel guilty for hurting him and any contact is to try to alleviate that.

If you had been together a long time (many years) and it was 'only' depression and drink then it could make some sense. Before I get jumped on I am not minimising either of these conditions and recognise that they could take months or even years to 'resolve' but if you do still love him and he is prepared to take actions to recover from the problems it may work out well. Only you know what 'etc' was happening previously and you would have to decide if he is someone you could be with again.

Did you have another thread on this?