To think that no step family

[Sienna333]

Is without it's problems? I know a blended family who spend tons of time together and worship the ground each other walks on and who are friendly with the ex wives as well. Is this rare? I wonder how they can all be so perfect and happy all the time.

Surely any family isn't perfect with no problems.

Admittedly I don’t know many blended families but my brother has his ds ( he does not see his Mum) and my sil has 2 dc ( they see there dad at weekedns) and they all rub along nicely. They have been a blended family for years now and don’t seem to have had any problems.

I guess a lot of it depends on what all the dc are like together and the relationship with the ex’s

My family (now-late-DH, my two children & I) worked really well, mainly because late-DH was such a nice man.
After he died ds1 said he didn't really think of him as a step dad (he came into their lives when they were 9 and 6), he was more of a dad (he has a good relationship with his dad who is is with twice a week).
I would describe my relationship with my ex as a cordial working relationship, and his partner seems pleasant enough although I don't really know her very well.

However I don't consider we were a "perfect" step family as his two children unfortunately had no part in our family life (he would see them separately).

I know divorced couples who are still friendly and the new spouses get on too. It helps if no party is the OW/OM of course. I like my ex's girlfriend a lot but she came on the scene after we separated and she's nice to my kids - if these two things were not the case I'd be her sworn enemy! The kids and I are looking after their dog when they go skiing in January because their usual dogsitter is having an operation.

Very few families are perfect.

We function very well as a step family, as do DSDs mum and stepdad. We all stay out of the other families business so no interfering, we accommodate changes to the contact schedule if we can (either side would only say no if they already had something very important planned - never happened yet in five years!), we are all polite and civil to each other and never bad mouth the other family.

Pick ups are either done between mum and dad or me and the stepdad, because mum isn't particularly keen on me, and DH isn't particularly keen on stepdad, but DSD hasn't picked up on that at all (she is 8). When we do all see each other we say hello and have a chat.

Basically both families respect the boundaries of the other. And all 4 parents/stepparents put DSD first so it works.

My parents are divorced and both remarried. They split up when I was tiny. All four of my parents will attend family get togethers and chat together with no animosity.
I’m well aware that I’m really lucky though x